Immediate Family Wedding with I Do BBQ; Bridal Shower okay?

Personally I think it would be okay but I'm not up to date on all the etiquette so someone else might be able to answer this better than me

Please allow vendors to comment.

I think this is an exception to the rule. I think it's really kind that you want to throw a shower for your sister. I would not be offended by this.

I think for close friends & family this would be fine.

Thank you all for the feedback! It is really encouraging to hear what other people think

Your sister wouldn't technically be a "bride" so yeah, a shower is out. A shower is a pre-wedding party. If you want to throw one prior to her actual wedding with family then that is appropriate, otherwise find another activity that includes her friends that doesn't involve gifts .

I Do BBQ is basically a reception. I say it calls for a bridal shower.

I think if you keep it small, and only invite her very closest friends and family then it is ok. I would plan on bringing a gift to a celebration of marriage if my best friend got married in a family only ceremony, so I wouldn't be offended.

I think this is fine because the "I Do BBQ" is like a reception. She's not asking for gifts and then not inviting them to anything, so I don't think it violates etiquette.

Why wouldn't she be a bride? Anyone who is about to get married is a bride, regardless of whether they elope or have a giant reception.

@island girl she's not a bride if it's after the wedding, then she's a wife!

I think there shouldn't be a bridal shower. I still think the standard rule applies. A BBQ is very informal and I wouldn't call it the equivalent of a reception. I'd say its more like a party. Only people invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower.

She said the shower would be before the wedding.