I'm worried my wedding will be super tacky...

All of those things are fine minus the honeymoon registry- pay for your own vacation.

It's your wedding! If you want Mexican, get Mexican catering! I've been to beautiful fire hall weddings. And the dollar dance is a thing for our family too. My family is from Ohio and every family wedding does dollar dance and cookie tables. People have scoffed at both, but it's a family thing. Wear what you want too! You have to look at those pictures forever.
And you can get Halloween elements & keep it fun without being tacky. Do your Thing, because someone somewhere is ALWAYS going to disagree with you anyways.

Agreed with sarah, it's not tacky if you want it. but if you are literally calling the honeyfund tacky then i think even you know not to do that part.

It's your wedding do what you want! I tried to please everybody when i first started planning and it about made me go insane. I had to step back and breathe and realize it isn't about anyone but you and your FH.

The honeymoon fund and the dollar dance are tacky (although it sounds like you won't budge on that one). Get rid of the honeyfund. People will give you cash if you just make a small registry for some upgrades.

Everything else is fine!

Also, Halloween themed wedding would be awesome!

Its your wedding. Do what you want and feel what is best for you.

Nix the honeymoon registry. It's ick.

I have never seen a dollar dance in the wild. They sound bad but I guess I can't speak of what I literally have only heard of as legend.

Yup. All of this is fine. The dollar dance is a bit weird to me, but I know that in many areas it is expected. And I agree, no honeymoon fund. But other than that, it's all good.

Who is telling you these things are tacky? Being from Pittsburgh too tons of people use fire/banquet halls, that's pretty common and doesn't have to be tacky. Dollar dance is also something I've seen at every Pittsburgh wedding...it might be a little tacky but in a good way lol.

I'm having our guests eat from sheet cakes and having a dummy cake, more for logistical reasons than anything because they can have the cake cut and serve it immediately after we cut the top layer...I'm not sure why it would be tacky to have a different shape of cake.

I'm only inviting one coworker - I'm not close with any of them so why would they gain an invite to my wedding just because we work together?

I've been to weddings with just wine and beer, so adding a signature cocktail even ramps that up a step, I wouldn't call that tacky even if I'd prefer having more options.

For me, the Halloween theme could end up being kind of tacky, but if that's what you want, go with it...just try to keep it subtle since you're so concerned with not being tacky.

I don't understand the above comment about honeymoon registry - I'm starting to see articles everywhere suggesting to do that. People are going to spend the same amount on you either way so why not have them put it toward something you'll enjoy?

Don't worry so much. At the end of the day you'll celebrate with your loved ones, have a great time, and most importantly you'll be married!

None of that screams "tacky" to me. I've been to some beautiful weddings in village halls. Get some nice linens, maybe some flowers, set some mood lighting, and it'll look great. Walking down the aisle alone is not tacky at all!! My sister had a BBQ wedding and the food was aaaaahmazing, it's one of the things I remember most about it. If you're providing beer and wine that's plenty, and a signature drink is just icing on the cake... Don't stress. Everyone has an opinion about everything, it's like you get engaged and suddenly everyone in your life becomes a wedding planned, but just because one person says they don't like something you planned doesn't mean you need to change it.

Hello from a fellow Pittsburgh (Monroeville) Bride!!

I just secured my venue after a long long search. We eventually had to increase our budget because it truly was hard to find exactly what I was looking for. If you haven't booked a venue, I'd be happy to share ideas with you. I think I scoped out 20-30 different places. Lol

There are actually quite a few really nice banquet and fire halls around so I see nothing tacky about that at all. Nobody is walking me down the aisle, and we're not doing any of the typical dances except our first dance.

As for the dollar dance, I really think it's a regional thing. I too have never been to a wedding that didn't have one. I personally won't be doing one, but due to other anxiety issues.

Oh...and we're doing a St Pattys Day theme. So if you're tacky, I'm right there with you!

It sounds like you are trying your best to properly host your guests with food, drinks, etc. So do what makes you happy!

Literally everything in your list is fine except for the dollar dance and honeyfund. Begging for money is not a good look. No cute poem, eloquent message, or song is going to disguise it. Just don't register and your guests will get the hint.

So have your small (30 or less - nix the coworkers) wedding with BBQ/Mexican, tea length (or shorter!) dress (plenty of brides in the 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s got married in dresses shorter than floor length), with beer, wine, and signature cocktails, at the venue of your choice.

As long as you are being a good host - providing plenty of food and drink at no cost to your guests amongst other things - those with opinions can go sit on a tack. This is your wedding. Not theirs. I suggest lurking around on WW a bit to get familiar with the dos and don't of proper hosting.

P.S. I am also in Pittsburgh and there are plenty of places! You just have to do your research and take a few trips around town. The wedding you want would be great in one of our beautiful parks (Frick park and Schenley park are the ones that come to mind for me.)

View Quoted Comment Can I just say how excited I am to finally see some Pittsburgh brides coming out of the WW woodwork?! I think I have been on this site for close to a year now and I don't think I've ever seen a post by a Pittsburgh (let alone Monroeville) bride until today.

So hello from Penn Hills! 😀

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Re the Honeyfund:

It's because you are asking for cash. It's never polite to ask for cash. If someone wants to give me money, they can do that without me setting up a honeyfund. Literally everyone knows that 99.9% of coupes prefer cash over any other kind of gift. It also makes it look like you are planning a vacation you can not afford outright with the expectation that it will be funded for you, which is gauche.

Also, these sites charge a fee. So if uncle Johnny adds 100.00 to my honeyfund, I might only see 95.00 of those dollars (depending on the site - I have seen some that charge up to 8%). Let uncle Johnny just write you a check and then you can use the full 100 for whatever you please.

There is no argument that will change my mind.

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Interesting. I did not know about the fee, nor was I planning to have a honeyfund so I haven't looked into it or thought about it much, I just noticed that they're becoming really popular so I wouldn't think anything of it if someone had one. Makes sense though.

Am I misreading the part about your only having food as a late night snack?

I don't see any major issues with the things that you've listed. I live in Western MD and every wedding I have ever been to has had a dollar dance. I'm not having one at my wedding, but I've never been bothered by someone else having one--I just didn't participate. Late night snacks/Mexican/BBQ are all on trend and things my caterer offered as options. And even if they weren't--you're hitting the most important points by feeding your guests, offering alcohol, and knowing your limitations with budget and guest list to host your event properly.

Everything sounds fine. I would get tid of the honeymoon registry. Dollar dance isn't for me but I do know it's big in some areas.

View Quoted Comment Hi Neighbor!!! I am technically in Penn Hills too, just used to saying Monroeville to my out of town friends & family that have no clue where we are!