I'm worried my photographer won't show up

I am so sorry you are going through this and if you hadn't already paid, I'd say find a new photographer. I would try to get something in writing ASAP from her. If it isn't the contract, at least an email. You can email her and say something like "I'd like to confirm all the details about your services for my upcoming wedding. You are scheduled to be there on (date) from (time to time). Also, please confirm that we are paid in full. Hopefully you'll get a response to that, even if its just something like "yes, I'll be there." And I would be hassling her hard for your contract. If she keeps saying she emailed it, I'd be on the phone with her when she does and not get off the phone until it appears in your inbox.

Even though, according to what you're saying, she comes highly recommended, she isn't seeming to live up to the hype. I don't want to make you nervous and say that you have to look for other options, but I am going to suggest it anyway.

I would very blatantly explain your dissatisfaction with this entire process so far and that if you do not receive a signed contract by "x" date, you will have to visit other options.

I can understand if she had a bit of attitude when you cut the number of hours. Doing so cut her revenue for the day in half and it's doubtful she could make it up by shooting another wedding the same day. However, a true professional will show up at your wedding and do a good job. Your only other option is to cancel with her, lose all your money and find a new photographer.

I'm friends with her on Facebook and from what I can tell she has some personal stuff going on, but that doesn't excuse her time management problems. I also know from Facebook that one of her clients was unhappy with her work (or something, idk the details) and was able to get their money back from PayPal. I also paid her through PayPal.

Push for a contract. If she can’t provide one, get a new photographer because this one sounds unprofessional and rude.

View Quoted Comment I agree, and I felt bad about that but she had 8 months to rebook that Saturday. We changed to a Sunday morning and I didn't want her to have nothing to shoot for the other 4 hours. I debated on not asking but did say she would make it up to me.

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Sheesh, this girl needs an agenda. Forgetting about a photo session when you're a photographer is so unprofessional.

I would also demand the contract, and if you still don't get one I would start looking around for someone more reliable while there is still enough time.

Yikes. I would honestly be worried as well. She seems very unprofessional & that is not acceptable in my opinion. She completely forgot about your photoshoot! That’s wild

Take out wedding insurance and have a back up ready in case she doesn't show.

If I'm not able to get a contract out of her, should I go through the process of getting my money back from PayPal? Has anyone done that?

View Quoted Comment Yeah! I went back and read the messages and she said "what day again? I can't find it" I said today and she said "I'm slowly losing my mind" with a bunch of laughing emojis. Then she said it was because she had moved the week before. The first time she cancelled she was supposed to be out of town that week and apparently forgot.

Why did u pay her upfront normally u would just put down a deposite of maybe 20% of the cost if she dont show i hope u have something proving u paid her in full and keep all emails and text messages and sue her

View Quoted Comment She required a 50% deposit so that's what I paid. I do have all the messages from her!

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Great if she don't show then take her to court she will be really wrong for not showing

I'd demand the contract, you are a paying client! Don't tip toe around her, she's blown you off a few times.


It's important to note, that until you sign a new contract you're responsible for the current one.