HappilyEverAlberti
Savvy November 2017

I'm worried I made a mistake with my dress

HappilyEverAlberti, on February 8, 2017 at 12:11 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 37
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I was stuck between two dresses- one of them my mom liked and my cousin loved. The other made my mom cry, but my cousin (basically my sister) hated. I decided to go with the one that I loved, but my cousin hated. My FMIL saw the dress and told me I looked like "a ballerina on steroids." I may have cried a little... i'm so stressed that I made a bad decision but I thought the dress made me look beautiful and fit our Victorian B&B Venue perfectly and now I'm second guessing myself and honestly feeling insecure. Is anyone else dealing with something similar? Or maybe can I get some super honest feedback on the dress. Much love to you all!


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Latest activity by Katie, on February 8, 2017 at 11:37 AM
  • HappilyEverAlberti
    Savvy November 2017
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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
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    Beautiful dress...love the detail on the top. Forget everyone else...how do YOU feel in it?

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  • Rebecca
    Super April 2020
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    That dress is beautiful! And you look beautiful in it! If you love it then who cares what they think!

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  • HappilyEverAlberti
    Savvy November 2017
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    Thank you- I loved it so much when I first put it on but I think all the negativity is lodged into my head now. I work at the bridal salon that I got it at and it's come in but I'm terrified to put it on because I'm worried I will be too hard on myself

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted June 2017
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    The dress is beautiful! At the end of the day it is your wedding. If you love it, your smile and glow will make the dress even more beautiful.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    I had the same thing happen with mine. Bought a dress and loved it so much, mom loved it too.. then the more I tried it on I hated it. I found a dress I couldn't stop trying on but my friends hated but I feel beautiful. The day is about YOU and how you feel in it. If you love it then wear it! If you don't then I'd keep searching.. coming from personal experience I am happy with my decision. It's one day you'll remember for the rest of your life

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  • ReneeEdward
    VIP November 2017
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    You're wearing it not them. So go with whichever one you liked best.

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  • Nikki
    Devoted December 2017
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    While the dress isn't a style that would suit me, I think it is a very nice dress, and it's beautiful on you. This is why only my MOH is seeing my dress before the big day. Other VIPs, like my mom and FMIL, got to give their input in different dress designs but don't know which I chose. Also, what's so bad about looking talented and graceful? Are you sure it was meant as a complaint?

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  • HappilyEverAlberti
    Savvy November 2017
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    Nikki- she followed with saying that she did not like it at all so I know it wasn't supposed to be a compliment. I wish I wouldn't have shown anyone but maybe my mom haha. I so wholeheartedly love your honest feedback as well

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  • rdlb
    Expert July 2017
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    What a gorgeous dress! Stunning.

    People who say those things have their own crap going on and it is unfortunate that they are letting it come out as an attack on you. Ignore it - and rock that dress.

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  • MrsDrum
    Master June 2017
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    My mom hated my dress so I bought another one. I went back to my original because it's where my heart is. Now I have 2 expensive dresses and one I'm having trouble selling even at a heavy discount. Don't make my mistake - go with your gut!

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  • Alex
    Devoted December 2017
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    Super pretty, very unique and special. Would definitely encourage you to stick with your first instinct on this dress!

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  • Stephanie & Chris
    Expert July 2017
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    Oooh! The detail on the top is gorgeous! I love how sweeping and beautiful the back looks! I think it looks like it would be fun to wear too bc I bet it twirls amazingly and floofs up and down when you hop hahaha

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  • xray12280
    Master June 2017
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    I love that dress!

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  • A
    Devoted December 2017
    Autumn ·
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    That dress is beautiful. If you feel beautiful, that's all that matters. Everyone has different taste and you were drawn to this dress because it's good for you.

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  • HappilyEverAlberti
    Savvy November 2017
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    @stephanie & chris - you are making me want to do lots of twirls and jumps now! Haha

    @everyone- thank you all for your sweet and uplifting comments. I am happy to find a place where there are a lot of people who are here to listen, chat, share experiences, and uplift one another!

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  • Gina
    Devoted October 2017
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    I love the dress!!! It's gorgeous! You look gorgeous!!

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  • Jane38
    VIP September 2018
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    Honest feedback: I think this dress is beautiful, and based on your description, would suit your venue perfectly. It is unique, elegant, and stylish.

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  • Runawaybride
    VIP May 2017
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    I LOVE the detail in the top. And the way the skirt moves! I think that dress is a beautiful choice. And I honestly haven't seen anything like it. So unique!

    How's your relationship with your FMIL? I'm more worried about the fact that she said something so hurtful to you. Have you told her how that made you feel?

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  • mrsanda
    VIP March 2017
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    I love it! It looks great! You should always go with what YOU WANT! Not what others think.

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