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Futuremrsm, on August 9, 2019 at 7:12 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 12

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So I've been trying to plan the appointment for my bridesmaids to pick out dresses for like 2 months. I finally picked a date and scheduled it about a month in advance. All my girls agreed to this date and said they could come to lunch after. I haven't seen my MOH much since March, and now she texts me asking me if it would be okay if she brings a 6 year old to the appointment. I asked her why and she said that she agreed to watch her boss's kid for the entire weekend so she would have to bring her. Like, what? I know it shouldn't be a big deal but I haven't seen her in months and now she wants a bring a random child to the appointment? I feel like when she was asked to babysit she should have been like "yeah I can but I have an appointment on saturday if someone can watch her then"

I'm not going to make a big deal out of it and am just going with the flow because I dont want to be a bridezilla, but the idea of having a random kid at the dress appointment and lunch kind of ruins a girls day for me. I may be being dramatic but I've been going through a lot and have been really looking forward to this day with my girls.

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Arielle · on August 9, 2019 at 7:33 AM
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Honestly, and I am not trying to be rude at all, I don't think it's a big deal to have 1 kid there. Put a tablet or phone in their hand and they will be entertained and it will be like they aren't there. I know it's upsetting to not spend time with your girls the way you'd like to, I just don't see it as a big deal. There will be so many more opportunities between then and the wedding.
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Renee · on August 9, 2019 at 7:39 AM
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I'd talk to her and see if she could make other arrangements. My sister did that to me, except it was her own kid, and it sucked. I told her not to bring her youngest daughter, (her husband could've watched her) and she insisted and it was stressful. She wanted to,get into everything, kept climbing on the little stand in front of the mirrors (there's a sign that says no children allowed up there and the owner of the shop repeatedly had to tell her to get down), and she kept interrupting everything-even with an iPad. Definitely talk to her and tell her that you wanted to catch up and ask her to find someone else to watch the kid
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Futuremrsm · on August 9, 2019 at 8:07 AM
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If it was her own kid I would not mind, but it's the fact that she agreed to babysit a child when she already had plans.
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Futuremrsm · on August 9, 2019 at 8:08 AM
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She said she's going to try to see if someone else can take her. I'm just mad that she agreed to babysit someone else's kid when she had already told me that the day was free for her
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H · on August 9, 2019 at 8:11 AM
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I have a 7yr old, and I know all kids are different, but from my own experience and seeing other children around my daughters age, they're at that age where they're pretty well behaved. I honestly wouldn't worry much about it and definitely don't let it damper your mood. Sure she should have mentioned something to her boss about the appointment but what's done is done. You can either schedule another appointment or try to make the best of the situation.
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The Bride · on August 9, 2019 at 8:13 AM
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My sister, who was one of my bridesmaids, did the same thing when it was time to go to the rehearsal and lunch. She volunteered to watch not one but two 12 year olds knowing we had plans. The kids sat inside the venue while we had the rehearsal outside the venue and on the opposite end of the table during the lunch at a hibachi restaurant. I was extremely annoyed, especially considering I had to pay for them to eat. I didn't let it ruin my day though. The two boys kept each other entertained and didn't get in the way. Nonetheless it was rude of my sister to agree to watch two kids knowing she already had plans. I would recommend you having a talk with her and letting her know that the child can come but that you don't want it to interfere with your girls day out so she needs to make sure he has things to do.
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Danielle · on August 9, 2019 at 8:34 AM
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It will only ruin the day for you, if you let it. Personally I wouldn't have any issues with someone bringing a child, even if it is a random one. Not sure how that child could ruin anything. But I know everyone has different mind sets and emotions. Sorry the day you were looking forward to isn't going as you'd hoped. I really do wish I could say I understand why you are mad that she agreed to babysit knowing she made these plans, but my mind is just thinking that maybe she didn't think it would be an issue, wanted to help her boss out, or needed the money (if she is getting paid). But again, I know people feel differently about different things, so I am not trying to say your feelings aren't justified....I just have a hard time relating. Good luck on y'all's girl day / dress appointment. Hope you have fun catching up with your ladies, and everyone can agree on the perfect dress.
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Lizzy · on August 9, 2019 at 9:15 AM
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Honestly little girls tend to ohh and ahh at these kinds of things. With it being her boss' child, she may not have felt like she could say no and it doesn't seem like that big a deal anyway
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Melle · on August 9, 2019 at 10:41 AM
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That could be annoying especially because you don't know the kid but as long as they're not causing a ruckus it should be ok
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MrsD · on August 9, 2019 at 11:08 AM
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Personally, I've never had a bride (I've only been in two weddings though) have a big appointment where everyone has to go and get their dresses. I didn't have one either. It's a lot easier to pick the dress or let each BM pick their own dress and get it on their own time.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 9, 2019 at 3:23 PM
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I'm not that into kids, so I'd likely be POed. I feel it would be strange to have a random child at the appointment. Is it possible to postpone or cancel the appointment? That seems just awkward!
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Heather · on August 11, 2019 at 10:38 AM
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Since it is her boss's child, it could be one of those situations where she felt she couldn't say no. This is better than others on the site where they couldnt get bridesmaids to commit or show up at all. Just try to be understanding and make the best of it. You should be gracious and let others look like the fool if necessary. It's a let down from your vision of the day but dont let perfection get in the way of good enough. The girls will have their dresses and you will get that time with your girls. Good luck to you.
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