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I'm thinking of ditching the slide show to do a tribute instead - thoughts?

The Sealpups, on July 17, 2019 at 5:25 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 5

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I've noticed that most asian weddings I've gone to, there's a slideshow. The toasts from the parents are also all about what the kids have achieved and their personal family stories of either the bride or groom taking part in a family vacation. Also, each family member needs to have the spotlight. The wedding is not centered around the bride and groom but the whole family... I am NOT a fan. There's already expectations of us doing a slideshow and I honestly have never been a fan. I've never enjoyed watching the couple's personal pics for 20 mins, so I wouldn't expect them to sit through ours. That must so boring for them. Also, FH's mom's speech for his sister's wedding was so cringy - it was all about her academic achievements and nothing to do with them as a couple. Yikes.

Here's what I want to do - NO toasts from the parents ( bc we don't need to sit and listen to them brag for 20 minutes about their offspring or their family's greatest moments). We don't need a slideshow either. I want to combine the idea and have someone interview our moms and ask them about how we were like as kids, their favorite memories of us growing up, how they knew we were in love, their observations as a couple, and advice for married life. Things are kept in context. After the "interview", it will cut to us with our message saying, "thanks" for our parents for all they've done for us - a tribute to them. It will then cut to a minute montage of pictures of us with our parents growing up - birth, first day of school... all of those milestones and the last image is a pic of all 4 of us. Video will be less than 5 minutes. That'll be our surprise. Everyone is expecting this boring slideshow, parents will be butt hurt over not speaking but will this surprise everyone?

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Latest activity by Cristy, on July 17, 2019 at 6:48 PM

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Selena · on July 17, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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That sounds like a win-almost win (for the parents). I would much rather sit through this 5 minute video than a presentation...
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Cristy · on July 17, 2019 at 5:49 PM
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I think this is a GREAT idea!! First of all, it's much shorter than the traditional speeches/toasts, and slideshow. Second, it's more interesting than the typical slideshow you described.
But if your families are how you say they are, I wouldn't tell them anything about this. Just act like you're doing what they deem traditional, and leave it at that. It will be a huge surprise at the wedding.
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The Sealpups · on July 17, 2019 at 6:29 PM
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Haha right? No offense but I always dreaded the slideshow presentations at other weddings bc they were so boring. And let's be realistic - no one wants to sit through your pictures. I wouldn't torchere our guests with our pictures haha
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The Sealpups · on July 17, 2019 at 6:32 PM
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Thank you! I'm thinking of having my sister do the "on cam interview" while our moms are at the bridal shower. We can maybe fib and say that its for our wedding extras of our wedding DVD (totally outdated but our baby boomer parents will believe it!). Do you have any advice on how we can collect pictures/video footage from our parents? There's a plethora of them but I'm trying to think of a good lie without leaking any info. I think we've told some family that we're not doing a slideshow, so I'm sure word got around
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Cristy · on July 17, 2019 at 6:48 PM
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Even if you've told people you're not doing a slideshow, brides and grooms have been known to change their minds, so........you could maybe have one of your BMs/GMs plant a seed that you and FH are still thinking that one over--and you need some pictures from the moms in order to put it together.
Another tool could be siblings--do you and FH have any? If so, they can help you collect photos on the sly.
I think having your sister do the "on cam interview" is a great idea too. Yeah, wedding extras, DVD, they'll believe it. Good plan! Good luck to you!! I hope you're able to pull off the reception you want, rather than having to settle for what traditional families want.
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