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Sydney
Just Said Yes December 2020

I’m so stressed l and just need a shoulder

Sydney, on November 30, 2020 at 5:25 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
Hi all. My fiancé and I are getting married this Saturday. Obviously due to the pandemic nothing has gone right. We scaled our wedding guest list from 350+ to immediate family and a select few close friends. My grandmother had to be moved to an assisted living and is not allowed to come. My step mother and my youngest brother just told me yesterday that they aren’t coming. My fiancé’s grandmother died 3 weeks ago and it was her only goal to make it to our wedding. One of my bridesmaids might have covid and got tested today. I’m just very disappointed in everything that has happened. I understand those that don’t want to come, i just wish so much it wasn’t a choice that needed to be made. My fiancé and I are at the point where we can’t wait for it to be over with, just to put everything behind us. And that’s not how anyone is supposed to feel about their wedding at all. I just wish everything was normal again. I just want my family with me on our special day. Not having wedding photos with my grandma is going to be so hard. Sorry for the rant. Thanks for listening.

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Latest activity by Judith, on December 4, 2020 at 2:54 AM
  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Awww I'll definitely be sending you good vibes.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    I am very sorry about everything. My deepest condolences. Covid has been terrible. I hope you can still enjoy your wedding 💐 Hugs.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
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    I am so sorry if they are allowing visters maybe you can go in your wedding attire and take photos maybe you can zoom the people who cant attend in

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  • Meagan
    Devoted October 2020
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    Hi Sydney, I am so so sorry that you're going through this. I'm especially sad to hear about your grandmother and your fiance's grandmother; that is absolutely devastating. My prayers will be with you. It may be hard to feel this way now, but I feel deep in my heart that your wedding will be beautiful. It's not the day you planned, but I know that when you put on your dress and see your husband, the world will melt away. I planned my big wedding for May, and when COVID rolled through I cried my eyes out. We dreamed of our special day for 7 years, and I was so excited for my extended family to meet my favorite person. Our intended day turned into a backyard ceremony with both our immediate families and our pastor. No dress, no aisle, no grandparents, no professional photography and it was still an incredibly emotional and special day. We laughed, we cried, and we were so happy to be married regardless. I really hope and believe that you will experience the same Smiley heart Don't feel bad for wishing things were different, that is so valid

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  • T
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    I’m sorry, just try and have some fun out of it..


    Dance like no ones watching. ❤️
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    I hope that you enjoy your wedding day
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  • Jai
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    I'm sorry you're feeling down. Covid really has made things difficult. You're not alone. Enjoy your wedding day and make the best of it. Please post pics so we can see how your day went!
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  • Michelle
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    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know this doesn’t make it easier but your fiancé’s grandmother will be there in spirit. My grandmother recently passed & I really wished she could have made it to our wedding. My mom passed back in 2018 (on my birthday) which is another person who won’t be there. All we can do is pull ourselves up, dust ourselves off & roll with the punches!
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  • Nina
    Savvy December 2020
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    Hi Sydney, I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling this grief right now. My thoughts are with you ❤️
    I can relate to the chaos of wedding planning and changes during this time. We have a very similar situation for our wedding next weekend and are now flipping back and forth between it being just us, and it being us and 10 guests. It’s making me confused that I don’t even know which I want anymore, just to be married and enjoy the day. From what everyone says on here, I think that will be the case. I hope you have a beautiful wedding day
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  • Katheryn
    Just Said Yes December 2020
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    Oh Sydney,

    I feel your pain. After I got engaged in July 2019 we planned a quick engagement and a March 21, 2020 wedding - perfect! Then covid shut everything down 5 days before. We rallied, postponed til July 4, but postponed again because covid was still a thing and I really didn't plan a summer wedding anyway. Postponed until Dec 19, 2020 - great - the winter wedding of my dreams! And now, disappointment after disappointment. I keep getting declines in my inbox. Some of my closest friends and family won't be there. It's so sad. We are able to have up to 75 guests in our huge ballroom, but more likely it will be around 50 since so many people are afraid to come. I get it, I have to respect their decision, but I can't postpone again as I just can't deal with the stress and heartbreak and who knows when this will end. Knowing my luck it will end the day after my wedding! I just want to get this over with and move on and try for a baby. The only thing I'm looking forward to now is never having to think about this wedding again and enjoying a honeymoon with my husband.

    Know that those that surround you on your wedding day are the ones that would weather anything to stand by you. You can plan another party in the future if you choose to (I know I don't even want to think about planning another celebration right now).

    I'm so sorry you are going through this and I'm so sorry about your grandparents. It's an awful time for all of us. In the end you'll be married to your love and that's the most important part.

    Sending positive vibes!!

    Katheryn

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    At some point down the line when visitors are possible again, bring your gown to grandmothers and change into it, and make her day. Get through this with all of your family and friends and yourself healthy at the end. Sorry for the loss of your wedding dreams. Cling to each other, and have a long and happy marriage.
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