Im so indecisive on venues

I honestly don’t remember how many I looked at online bc I looked at A LOT, but we visited 6 places. It was down to a conservatory & a open vendor venue ..I really wanted the conservatory but our wedding is in August and some of family has health concerns so outside may not have been the best choice. I weighed pros/cons & FH also liked the other venue a lot. It’s the only thing he really requested so I left the decision to him.

I think I physically looked at 6 or 7 venues. But once we got to a certain poibt we just made a comparison list together.

We been to several as well. He keeps putting the decision on me. I'm way to indecisive.

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I also had a hard time. My problem was Invisioning it all set up (we are doing a more plain venue and adding our own decor). I asked for various pictures, and had them walk me through the day (down to like before the ceremony you will all line up here etc.). Also think about what your overall theme is. Rustic vs modern will give 2 very different venues.

My yes moment was when I saw the bridal suite (kinda funny since only like 10 people will be in it). But I liked everything else too so that was just the icing that was like yup, this is it.

Well I started out just by looking at general ideas online, like on Pinterest. I figured out what I wanted my wedding to look like- classic? romantic? rustic? completely different and off the wall?

Then I actually found the venue search on the knot, and typed in the general area I live in and started looking at pictures online. I wrote down all the ones I really liked and sent inquiries about pricing.

Once I got pricing back, I knew if it was good or definitely out based on our guest list and what we could afford. During this time, we also got recommendations from friends who had been to weddings in the area previously or who had recently had kids or family members married. We got the recommendation for my venue from my mom's coworker.

I looked it up and fell in love with the way it looked. It fit my vision perfectly, but I tried not to get too excited because pricing. Turns out the pricing was exactly in our budget!

We went and toured it in person and I was even more sold. What made me say yes was the price and how it fit the vision for my wedding to a T.

Have your toured any venues in person yet?

I looked at 5online, 1 in person. The rest never got back to me and I reached out to them via WW. I thought that they were very unprofessional for not responding. The one place that i really wanted to have my wedding which would have allowed me to have an outdoor ceremony and indoor reception which is what I wanted, the venue manager kept wanting to meet me during the week, during the day as if I didnt work. I think after awhile you need a list of must haves and you need to sit down and make a decision as to what you really want and go for it because at the end of the day it's about you and groom that really make the party, the location really doesnt matter.

When we walked into the library, we both just knew it waa right. We looked at the others we had already made appointments for, but everything was compared to the library. When we made our decision, we knew we could save a ton of money if we went to one of the other places we looked at, but we would regret not doing the library. You deserve your wow place. Take your time. It is out there.

I sent an inquiry to over 45 venues that appealed to me then narrowed that list down to about 20. Then my DH and I discussed them and narrowed it down to 11 to actually physically visit. Because they were all about 1.5-2 hours away from us we scheduled our site visits over two weekends. I wanted a place that either had accommodations for guests or was very close to hotels for my guests. I wanted the food, bar and overall service to be outstanding. I wanted a place that could combine black tie service with a relaxed atmosphere so guests felt no expense was spared to make them feel comfortable. As soon as we saw the place we ultimately chose, and especially after discussing our vision with the venue's event coordinator, we knew we had found the one.

I only looked at 3 in person. I had appointments for 2 more and cancelled them. I loved that the venue I chose made me feel special as soon as I walked in. I appreciated the level of customer service that I experienced from the first moment I entered.
The venue I chose also includes all vendor meals free of charge which was an added bonus. In addition, they do not expect tips for any of the staff. I was told they are a “no tip” venue. That was great to hear.
They also provide me with a DOC who will begin working with me and planning with me a few months prior to the wedding.
They provide catering as well and I loved their options. This is one less thingi have to do so I was happy about that. Overall I felt like I would be getting the most for my money with them, not only through the physical things that I will be receiving and providing to my guests, but through the customer service.

We toured 5, but got information and reviewed online over 30 venues. We made a list prior of what we both wanted (outdoor ceremony & cocktail hour, indoor reception; large bridal & groom's suite; mountain views, dog friendly) then when we found one that fit & had good customer service we went with it! It was the 2nd one we toured, we just wanted to see enough so we made the right decision.

I feel like a saw a million venues but maybe it was around 10. I saw a few of them multiple times. What I thought I wanted initially (very casual, rent a big house or estate and be informal) ended up being not realistic (too expensive, too much work). What I thought I did not want (traditional ballroom venue), I ended up loving ... eventually. There was no one venue where I thought HANDS DOWN we had to have. We just weighed the pros and cons and decided what would be most realistic and do-able within our budget in the end.

I’d probably still be looking if my mom hadn’t been like- Kate- you’ll miss out on having options if you don’t just pull the trigger! Thank God for her because I way overthink everything. Sounds like you may be in the same boat! I feel ya!

It boiled down to this: what place is meaningful to us that we want to share with our loved ones, and what has the best bad weather alternative! Literally—- My FH researched weather data and we went with the best date available in the best month for weather trends and the venue with the most desireable weather “plan B”. We also just felt like the space was “us” and felt an emotional connection to the town it is in. And then STOPPED researching!!! Obviously we can’t control day of, weather but now I know I’ll be happy spending the weekend in a place I love anyway!

hope that helps

I think we looked at seven or eight in person. No venue was completely perfect (except for one that was wayyyy out of budget). So we went with the one that was closest to having everything we wanted. It’s not 100% perfect (I would like a nicer bridal suite) but the views for our ceremony are amazing (right on the ocean). And when we thought about it, the ceremony and the pictures opportunities are more important than a bridal suite.

So I say manage your expectations and know that there may be some give and take. Think about what is absolutely most important to you. The ceremony back drop is probably the most important (not a bridal suite lol).

Thank u so much. Will narrow down my list.

We spent a lot of timing looking at venues online. Comparing the size, menu options, and pricing. We have a large guest list which eliminated a lot of venues for us. We also booked a wedding planner to get her opinions on venues. We probably looked at a dozen in person. We were visiting venues after work, and it got to be a lot. I took off a day and our planner scheduled us 7 tours. We narrowed it down to two venues after the tours, one that I preferred and one that my FH preferred. His venue wasn't available until 2019 and my venue had fall dates available. We would have been happy at either venue, but we decided we didn't want to wait. I don't think we had a "this is it" moment. The venue we selected was at the top end of the budget, so we were constantly comparing the two venues and what they offered.

I truthfully don't think there are too many venues to look at! Since venues can get very expensive, it's important to find something that meets most, if not all, of your requirements!

The first ceremony venue we looked at I KNEW I wanted but FH wanted me to be sure so we looked at a couple more. When we went back to the one I wanted originally, we both had the "yes! This is the one!" moment.

When I opened the swinging chapel doors, I truthfully almost cried because I pictured our wedding right in front of us! Paired with the authentic stained glass windows and beautiful wooden beams and woodwork, I knew that I wanted to get married there! It ended up being "fate" because our reception venue that we chose for that area had our wedding date available so we booked both venues that day.

Our reception venue we didn't really have a choice in (not much in a 20 minute radius of the ceremony location) but I've been to it before and it's beautiful with the woodwork and open concept, so we lucked out and I'm happy with both!

I looked at 3 in person. I sorta thought the first one was a long show and would be wayyyy expensive. Then I visited the other couple and they were so terrible!!! It turns out the one I actually loved wasn't that expensive once you considered that it included a lot more in the price!!!!!

We looked at about four or five, narrowed it down to one that we agreed on. We had to consider handicap access for his dad plus a few other issues. Hubby was insistent on an outdoor ceremony, and I was just as insistent on a place with a back up plan. You would be shocked to know how many places did not have one, lol!
Good luck! I would space them out and take notes as you are touring, perhaps a checklist of all your "must have's" as you WILL forget stuff and things will blend together.