I'm selfish

Yes. It’s pretty selfish to ask someone to delay a life decision (that has no involvement from you) because of a party.

View Quoted Comment That's what I feel but at the same time my matron of honor just had her daughter in April so I don't think she's looking for forward to having another baby if it happens we'll just have to work with it but I'm hoping not because you can wait 5 months special if you really don't want no kids anyway

Of course it is...lol it's their determination and decsions unless it was a joke...

Since you asked, yes 100% that is extremely selfish. I would stop being friends with someone who was that self centered.

...What? You don't get to dictate that. At all. Yes, it's selfish.

As someone who took a while to get pregnant I can’t imagine delaying 5 months to even start trying and that possibly delaying things another year or more. 2 of my bridesmaids were pregnant and it didn’t make things any different. Dresses can be altered and you can still have fun and enjoy time with your friends without every person drinking.

I mean it sounds like you did it more so jokingly but it is kind of a selfish request

Of course it is selfish to ask that. People need to do what’s best for them.

Okay I don't want to have to get into it with nobody in this group I'm not saying that's what I told them but yes I'm hoping they don't of course every female in my bridal party already has children so it's not a big deal of course if it happens they all have my support because I have my sister my cousin and my best friend of course they all know I love them and I'm there to support support them in any decisions that they make and that's all that really matters

View Quoted Comment So then what was the point of your post? You asked people to confirm requesting your friends to not have children for your wedding is selfish. They confirmed that and you're angry. Sooooo what was the point?

Yes, that is selfish. It is their decision if they want to prioritize getting pregnant or getting drunk at your wedding.


Also if you think people will need to be drunk to have fun at your wedding then you should probably focus on having a more fun wedding...

Yes..
you want to know if it’s selfish to tell people who are in your wedding (meaning : to celebrate, support you during this amazing by time in your life) to not get pregnant bc You are worried about dresses not fitting and not having a good time ? My answer is YES that would be selfish of you. Dresses can be altered and they would still have fun.. I don’t understand why you would ask this... I’m sorry, I am just a bit confused... 🤔🤔🤔🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Ummm...what? Yes, that’s incredibly selfish.

I hope this was a joke...that’s very selfish. I’m sure they’re grown women that can handle the responsibilities of being a Bridesmaid and having another child...if not, then that’s they’re call...and having another child is something you should be understanding about.

Yes, 100% selfish. No question about it

Let’s see 🤔 ....People are dying all over the world due to COVID-19, thousands are infected, many have lost their jobs and some couples have to cancel their weddings. Yet, your concern is whether adult women in your bridal party have sex and get pregnant??? 🤷🏽‍♀️ OK.



But, based on the title of your post, you already knew the answer to your own question.

Yes, a very selfish thing to ask. My sister become pregnant and is due the week before my bachelorette. That’s not something you can ask of someone nor is it your place to try and control!

It is extremely inappropriate for you or anyone else to ever, ever, for any reason, to say anything about when other couples choose to have children. As for your wedding, if you were concerned about dresses, you should have asked your bridesmaids to purchase their dresses at the usual time, in the last 5 months before the wedding. You had them buy unnecessarily far out. Your foolish decision. Bridesmaid dresses are low enough cost that no one wants to spend $200-350 changing one to accommodate to a fifteen pound ( or 2 size) or more weight change, or to a pregnancy. And BM dresses are available and shipped in 2 weeks to 8 weeks mostly, or if uncertain, you can buy off the rack. So there is no need to buy this far out. If major alterations are needed, it is on you. You hurried things, and now have to wait and see.

Selfish yes, but I had my bachelorette party last month, and one of my bridesmaids was 8 months pregnant - and it was no less fun with her not drinking.


Who cares, it’s your wedding and it will be fun no matter what. Put down the bridezialla and stop being selfish.

Yeah it’s very selfish to get involved in somebody else’s family planning and honestly, they probably wouldn’t listen anyway. if they want to get pregnant, they will.