I'm not excited for my wedding

Keep your focus on the fact that you are marrying your best friend. It's an amazing feeling knowing you are going to say I Do to the love of your life. Honestly, I didn't get that excited until a couple of weeks before the wedding. Then it really hit me and I got super excited. It must be hard planning so far away so it's hard to really envision what your day will be like without being able to visit your venue. It will all come together at the end and you will be married to your hubby and you will be so excited you won't be able to contain it.

You clearly are excited about the marriage. The wedding is just one day. I think it is perfectly okay for you not to be completely focused on that one day. Do what you can to nourish your relationship.

I'm planning from a distance too and that takes away a bit of the fun. The wedding planner emails me pictures and samples of linens, decor ideas, our paper goods, etc... and it's fun to look at them but it's not the same as doing it in person. We are flying out to Colorado this weekend to plan some things in person and I'm really excited about that. Can you plan some small trips to your destination periodically do things in person? Having a trip planned on the calendar adds to the fun.

I'm excited to be married and spend time with our family and friends but not super excited for the ceremony itself. I can't watch a wedding on TV without crying and the thought of everyone staring at me just adds to the anxiety of it all.

Hang in there, just 5 months to go! We planned from a bit of a distance (although just 2.5 hours away) and trying to plan everything early and make sure we didn't forget anything was really stressful. I hear so many girls say, awww, I wish I could do it all again. Heck no! I LOVED my wedding day, but I'm so glad all the planning and stress is behind me.

Like you said, you have all the big stuff nailed down. Just try to relax a bit and simplify as much as possible. If it's not necessary, scratch it. If it's not a big deal, make a simple decision and move on. That should help a bit. Two days before the wedding I took time for a massage and quiet time at a tea house to read. It was really nice to enjoy the peace and quiet!

On the day of let others help you as much as possible. It may be crazy in the morning, but once the ceremony begins you'll feel a huge relief of "This is happening, this is what it's all about" and see your love and the day will take care of itself. You'll be excited and happy when it's happening!

Edited to add: In the end, it's about the marriage and not the wedding day itself. So being excited to spend the rest of your life with your husband is a great place to be

I'm also planning from a distance, which makes things a little stressful. We can't just pop over to the venue or have quick chats with our vendors face to face, so it feels a little different. We've gotten really excited the times we've gone there and gotten a lot done all at once! I'd say just focus on the fact that you are going to be married in a few short months! It's normal to not love wedding planning, it's a lot of headaches for one day

I was also relatively indifferent compared to most brides. I planned the wedding here but all my friends and family were afar (few could come), and I was unfamiliar with Canadian/North American weddings. I was thrilled to marry DH, but it felt like planning a reception that was foreign to me, and for guests I didn't know.

It helped me to focus on a few things that I did like. I made our own centerpieces from kusudama (origami) flowers, and it took forever but was very cathartic. I focused on my dress, hair and makeup, and planning the honeymoon. That was fun

I'm super excited for the wedding and the marriage, but on days I'm not excited I just think about the day. Being with my favorite girls getting ready, marrying the man of my dreams, and having a huge party with everyone I love celebrating with me. That usually makes me pretty excited when I think about it that way.

I don't think there's anything weird with this exchange:

Them: Are you excited for the wedding?

You: I'm so excited to marry my best friend

And then you're not lying or putting on a show, but they're also not feeling like you're having cold feet or something.

I think you'll start getting more excited once it gets closer, too. I have mostly been feeling burdened/stressed out by the whole process, but now that decorative things are starting to arrive and that kind of thing, I'm getting more excited about the day of.

Also planning from a distance and about two months ago (we've only been engaged 5 months so I bet it's way worse since yours has been so long!) I hit the "I don't care anymore, can we just courthouse it?" Which we would but my mom wants so badly for us to have the big ceremony and she's paying so why not?

You're not alone but try to table wedding talk for a bit if you can. I know I got tired of every time I talked to anyone they mentioned the wedding. Marriage to my favorite person ever? I'll talk about that all day long but the wedding? It alternates between stoked and meh.

Totally fine to not be excited about the wedding as long as you're excited about the marriage!!!

I don't see anything wrong with this. Way too many women are excited about their wedding but not their marriage. My FH and I are in a similar position. We're both kinda over the whole wedding planning thing and are looking forward to our marriage. I'm planning from even a further difference so I can definitely relate!

Your priorities are in the right place and you seem to have things under control. The excitement might come back closer to the wedding so don't sweat it.

I am not excited for my wedding either. Their has just been a lot of stress because of it. I think once the actual day comes it will be exciting. Maybe you just need to be closer to it before you get excited. 5 months is still a pretty long time.

I understand what you ate going through. I live in Georgia but our wedding is in Mississippi and the idea of planning, because I don't have a planner and the wedding day in general is not as exciting as I would like it to be. It's stressful because I have to make scheduled trips to the place and it's always contact through email or phone. I can't wait to marry my FH but I always thought wedding planning would be exciting. Just keep your head up and focus on what makes you happy. That's all I have been doing

I think if I had been planning a wedding from far away that would have taken away from my excitement too just because it would have caused me so much stress. That's one reason we chose to stick close to home when the original plan was to go destination (that and my grandma can't travel). So maybe try planning some easier things that don't require so much coordination. Or maybe even take a break and don't think about the wedding for a couple weeks. When I felt burned out on it that really helped me.

There are days that I am not excited, but it is usually when I have a significant amount of work to do for the wedding. When I get overwhelmed I lose my motivation. Planning takes quite a bit of energy and work so when I feel myself getting stressed I take some time off from the planning and just focus on the rest of my life. At one point I stopped talking to the DJs that I had been emailing because I just didn't want to deal with it anymore. After a week I was ready to plan again.

FH and I plan dates in which we are not allowed to talk about the wedding plans and that helps a lot. It doesn't help when people ask about the planning because even if I have a lot done, I know there is a lot left.

I am excited for my marriage every day. The marriage is the important part.

I would try to set aside time for yourself and FH as well so the planning is less than a chore. I hope it gets easier for you.

Once the day arrives you will likely have a change of heart. But for my first marriage I wasn't excited either, so don't worry its normal. (This time around I'm pretty excited though! lol)

I feel the same way. Honestly I'd be worried if you were more excited about the wedding day than the marriage! You are far away from the location and still have a ways to go time wise, so you may get more excited as it gets closer and feels more "real." Personally, I wasn't big on having a whole hooplah but here we are. You don't have to let the planning process consume your lives, so it's probably good you don't want to think about it 24/7!

Planning from a distance too and I just want to get everything DONE and I feel the same as you. My BM is stressing out about everything and I just want to make decisions and be through with them. For example, my caterer is a family friend (not a friendor, it's a legitimate catering company and I'm paying just slightly discounted prices) so I'm just going with him and he's affiliated with a couple event spaces and I just went with the one he said was his favorite and good for our amount of guests. So I have food and vendor. I am very systematic and not very particular. It's kind of like- meh, close enough. At the same time, I cry almost every day because my heart is brimming with joy at getting married to this man I love so much and who loves me so much. I'm overfull with excitement for our marriage. I think the reception is nice and all, but it's not exciting compared to those feelings. I'm just looking at it like a party and not some kind of super important life breaking thing. So you're not alone at all.

I'm like mere days away and I'm not that excited. And everyone around me all emotional and excited and I'm just like "yay..."

A whole day where people are looking at me and will be judging and talking about the party just seems exhausting.

But the marriage part...now that I can't wait for!

That's how I felt. I can't wait to marry my boo thang, love of my life. The wedding...eh. Not really my thing but it has to be done. The hardest part in planning was this cultural pressure for me to be this excited bride who cared about color schemes and decor. I couldn't care less about that sh*t.