I just need to vent..
So my FH and I have been together for 2.5 years and I am so excited to marry him, he truly is the love of my life and I couldn't imagine my life without him.
I'll just start by saying there are things that have happen in the past that have hurt me but we have been able to move forward, small things that I feel most relationships go through. Anyway, About 2 years ago I was living in this apartment with a roommate that I eventually had to kick out because she stopped paying rent. So I was searching for a new girl to replace her when I met this girl named Jordon, honestly I'm not sure if I met her though my best friend or if FH introduced me to her, but I know FH met her first out of everyone. When he went to text her one night to come out to dinner with us like a double date type thing I noticed there was a heart next to her name.. I asked him about it and he said she did that when they first exchanged numbers and that he honestly just forgot about it because he hasn't texted her in a while and definitely not since we've been dating. From what I understood from everyone else they had a strictly platonic relationship and she was just that type of girl to put a heart in someones phone as a contact, so I let it go because I trusted him. But we became friends and every week her, FH, myself and a few other friends would go out for tacos, so we became close. I asked her if she wanted to move in to my apartment being that I needed a roommate and she needed a place to live. Anyway she moved in and everything was fine and we were all good. So this was all over like 2 years ago and We have since bought our house together and have been living in it for a year and a half now, so this is all old news right?
Well my dumba$$ asked him the other night who was the other person he slept with before me, besides his previous girlfriend.. stupid i know.. but we were both fairly tipsy at this point. He answers and says "Jordon"... Like my old roommate Jordon.. My heart just sank..
Now I trust him when he says that he has never cheated on me and nothing happened with her while we were together. I have no doubt in my mind that he is telling the truth. But the fact that he let me live with someone he used to have a sexual relationship with just fricken hurts.. I talked to him about it and he said that he didn't want to tell me because he was afraid I would leave him.. which of course I wouldn't leave him but I sure as heck would not have let her move in or even become friends with her if I had known that..
I am crazy jealous.. Its one of my biggest weaknesses and i can fully admit that. I just can't shake this hurt though.. Please one of ya'll tell me if I'm over reacting or if I have a reason to be as hurt as I am?
Its not going to effect our relationship, we have a strong relationship and have already completed premarital counseling. We are so inlove! But part of me is just so hurt..