I’m having a hard time ..

This is a tough situation. I am so sorry you’re going through this. You have plenty of time to decide for sure, and see how things play out. Just make sure you two are actually on good speaking terms if you decide to invite him. I can relate to your dilemma, my BFF of 15 years and I had a huge falling out 6 years ago. We didn’t talk for about a year/year and a half, then we reconnected, talked thing out and started being friends again. I found that in that year I really saw our friendship for how it truly was, and had outgrown it. She really was the same person and nothing had changed. About a year or two later she completely blew me off for my bday and I didn’t hear from her for over a month. At that point I was just over it all and never responded. Long story short, we haven’t spoken in three years, and I am fine with it. I still have my moments where I’m sad I don’t have my person anymore, especially now that I’m getting married, but in the end I know I made the right choice. We often romanticize things, as in remembering only the good, but not remember how they really were. To me it sounds like you are still grieving the loss of your friendship, understandably. It’s truly devastating to lose a close friend. However, I am a firm believer in cutting your losses and recognizing that friendships can also be toxic relationships, and not forgiving someone out of loneliness or nostalgia. If someone truly hurts you that deeply, you don’t always come back from that. Sorry for the long post, I am just hoping to give some insight from a similar situation that isn’t as fresh. I hope this helps! Glad FH is supporting you either way. Give it time, you will know what’s best for you!

I completely understand what you're going through. One of my best friends from high school (so going on about 12 years now) decided she wanted to completely cut ties with me about three weeks ago now. She had a couple major screw ups in our friendship the last 2-3 years and we haven't been as close as we were. She decided to completely delete me off social media as well as just cut off our friendship. She sent me a very emotionally manipulative letter explaining what it was about our friendship that she hated (a lot of which she admitted was projecting other issues onto me or things that she only wondered about and admitted they weren't based in reality). She ended our friendship with no discussion and no room for me to say my piece. Then she told one of our best friends she was basically a child throwing a tantrum so that I would pay attention to her (we have very different lives - I have a career in my field and I am going to grad school for my masters degree, I have a fiance, and we live alone and are currently trying to buy our own house and start our family as well as planning our wedding. She's willingly unemployed and lives with her parents). She was a fantastic person for emotional support, but had let me down many times, and ending our friendship like this (even if it was a tantrum) was the last straw. When people show you who they really are, believe them. Forgive them, but don't let them into a place in your life where they could hurt you again.