I’m freaking out! Serious dress regret :(

Hey!! I had serious dress regret! I loved my dress in the shop, and was trying to find a similar dress to a previous one I had tried on but was too expensive. My mom had taken pictures of the dress we purchased and I HATED it. So I went back to the shop and put it back on and loved it. I deleted the pictures of me in it because it looked so different. And every time I get a weird feeling I go on the designers website and look at the dress and still love it. Do you mind posting the dress? It might help to get some other opinions

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There’s a part of me that just doesn’t like the design of the lace. I always wanted something more clean and modern looking..

View Quoted Comment Oh!! I think it’s super pretty! And it looks really good on you! And it looks like a modern lace dress. The lace isn’t like over powering? (I can’t think of the right word lol) I would go back to the shop and put it back on. And if they haven’t ordered it yet for you... then ask to replace it with a dress you absolutely love

It looks like a really modern detailed lace. But I can see why you might be overwhelmed by the lace - that train is kind of intense. You look gorgeous though!!! Maybe you just need to put it on again - seeing it in person is often different enough you might be surprised. Maybe you should see a veil or a belt too, something to change it up a little.

This dress is beautiful.

I personally love this dress on you. That being said, you've posted on here a few times (and on weddingbee) asking for reassurance which leads me to believe this is not the dress for you (heck- you said it yourself!). Get on the phone with the bridal store TODAY and see if you can cancel the order. Since it's only been 2 weeks you can bet the designer has not started on your dress yet and the order can be cancelled. You typically won't get your deposit back but often the store will be understanding and allow you to apply those funds to a different dress there. So, you would be limited to sticking with that store. Good luck and keep us posted.

View Quoted Comment Apparently it’s past the window of cancelling. She said it will still come in & I can either take it (and pay the other half) or not (and only be out the deposit cost)

I personally, think this dress is fabulous and looks great on you!
That being said, you are having that feeling for a reason. I felt that way about my finger-tip veil. I went back and got a cathedral length veil and that nagging feeling in my gut disappeared.
I would say,go back and try on more dresses, to satisfy your own inner voice. Maybe you can apply the deposit, to another dress? If not, it may be worth it, to get the dress of your dreams ❤.Good luck!No one can really answer that question, but you. But your doubts, may have already answered it for you. Let us know how it goes!🤞🙏

It’s so beautiful and you look amazing.


Give it some time. Since you can’t cancel, you might as well sleep on it for awhile...but rest assured you look amazing.

You look gorgeous!!

As an equally indecisive bride, I agree with all those above. Go in and try in on again, have your makeup done, pick out a veil, and try to remember how you feel with it on as you continue your wedding planning. I had some serious regret and going in on a day that I felt great/cute/pretty/put-together and had my makeup done, help me envision what I'll look like and what I think I'll feel like on our wedding day surrounded by family and friends. This was suggested by a bridesmaid and made all the difference for me!

Lean on your family and it will all be okay!!

Your dress looks great on you! What about it don't you feel is bridal?

I had some serious dress regret as well and I think it's all to common for most to have it. Mine is very similar in style to yours with lace and a fit and flare. I think we put too much pressure on ourselves and second guess our decisions. I am also a very indecisive person, so i know exactly how you feel.

I think you look stunning!! maybe go back in and try it on with some accessories. a veil, tiara, shoes. you might just need a little extra something

First off, you look so beautiful. But of course, you have to feel beautiful too! I want to be honest here, and please don't mind. There's never going to be a 100% feeling, only one that is just happy and relaxed no matter what.

When we go shopping for a special occasion that isn't a wedding, we try dresses on and then we feel happy and we're set. With weddings, often there are other emotional components that carry over to everything else we're doing for the wedding. It's okay to feel emotional, but then it's also important to know that sometimes it's not about the dress but just the emotions of everything going on. Perhaps that's not the case for you, but I can't imagine anyone not going through a little something when they're getting married! I say enjoy the moment because this is the only one you'll have. And that's what makes it special! This exact engagement cannot be repeated in the future and you should be as happy as possible through the process, no matter how daunting. And yes, I do say this to myself as a reminder, I promise!

Now, if the store can't cancel and let you get something else, I recommend looking into seeing if anyone is willing to buy the gown from you? There are many websites of bride's selling their gowns, and the benefit you have is that the dress will be in mint condition, UNALTERED! Which is hard to find. This way whoever buys it can get it fitted to their body. Also, MANY brides are in need of a dress last minute, so your gown could really help someone out who doesn't have the time to order and wait. That's an idea. But at the end of the day, you will look amazing no matter what you wear! You seriously look so beautiful and classic.

I love this dress - it's gorgeous on you! I'm pretty sure I also tried it on - the train is very dramatic and I personally loved it and felt the bolder lace was actually more modern. I would agree with the other posters who suggested going back and trying it on with a veil or a hair pin/ornament. Also consider that the only time you'll have the train out is for the ceremony. You may like it better bustled and it may give you the look you're going for.
The other thing I've discovered about wedding dresses is that there are a LOT of beautiful dresses out there. You could almost always decide on one dress and go looking for another one and find another one that you also love.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Christine!