Trust me - I understand that my wedding is not the most important thing in the world. I never expected people to drop what they were doing to attend. I get that everyone has their lives and there's no needed explanation. I get it.... then why do I feel so sad that not everyone can be here?
FH & I took our time with getting married. We've been together for years. Everyone has been bugging us about it - local family, family far & wide. Now that it's here, the people we would have liked to see are not coming. I also get it - I am thankful for those who are coming and my motto throughout this process has been, "what's supposed to happen will happen and it's a good thing". I asked my cousin to be a bridesmaid (known her since childhood) and she declined. I wasn't upset that she declined, it was more that the decline was so casual. I was sad for a while, I gotta admit but then I asked another cousin to do it & she agreed and I'm honestly happy it worked out the way it did. Also, this venue we were so close to booking gave our date away without notice & we were so upset. Usually venues have been great & let us know that another couple is interested before making final decisions. This one went ahead & did it. We ended up booking at another venue. Well, that was a blessing in disguise bc that other venue ended up being shut down. They didn't have permits.
When we first told family about our engagement, we had people say they were coming & wanting to info on hotels. We gave them the info a bit earlier than we had wanted, just to give them enough time. We wanted something "intimate" for a typical 300+ person wedding that was expected of us. We were hoping for 150 minimum & 200 max. We had to be selective and didn't invite everyone we knew or family members we knew. My FH's family are great & 95% of them always fly out to family events (there's always at least one every year in either Hawaii or California). Unfortunately with one of the clans, none of them are coming, which is odd. I get it & I understand but it's sad. My family members (from out of town) were telling us right away they were coming but now on the RSVP date, they just declined with no message. Anyhoo, it's not about the quantity - it never was but I'm feeling sad. I'm sure the wedding will be so much better than what I'm thinking now, despite the declines. Maybe then I'll say, "wow, i'm so glad that not everyone made it!"
