I love my FH but one thing I am not looking forward to as a married couple is navigating the holiday season, which is normally one of my favorite times of the year since my birthday is right before Thanksgiving. Part of the reason is our families celebrate holidays differently. My family is very low-key and we prefer to relax more unless we get invited somewhere. FH's family likes to go crazy and be spontaneous about it. FH's family also have birthdays during the holidays so more reason to go all out. FH usually doesn't plan anything, he just goes with the flow of what his mom and sister come up with. I know I'll have to spend some holidays with his family. But my parents don't expect to spend every holiday with their three grown children. His mother gets upset if everyone's not there and it caused FH problems in his relationships before me. Before we got engaged FH and I were able to split the holidays pretty well. But that changes when we become one. No more celebrating holidays separately.
FH got into a fight this week over his birthday celebrations and I asked him not to commit to anything for the holidays until we speak about it. Ultimately this comes down to how FH manages his time and saying "no" to his family sometimes. But I'm curious how other couples have handled it?