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Call and talk to them directly. Don't text this one. Sorry this happened. Ugi😥

I put in there that I also called them they wont answer their phones at all

Have you tried talking to them about things non-wedding related? If not, maybe that has something to do with it? Especially if you are texting “deadlines” which are essentially demands at them. I’d try talking to them about things besides your wedding. Then, if they respond, find an appropriate way to bring up the wedding after you have asked them how they are doing and what is going on new in their life.

View Quoted Comment I've done that as well 😫 the final thing I did was give them the deadline and it's the only wedding thing I've talked about since two weeks after I asked them to be in my bridal party... but as my wedding gets closer I'm stressing

If more then one or two of them is upset something had to have happened to get them upset. I think you need to not talk about your wedding with them and find out what is going on. Also kicking them out of bridal party and replacing them can Ruin the friendship plus telling the other person you just want them there as a replacement.

Did you ask about budget and opinions on the dress?

View Quoted Comment Yes I chose two different dresses that was under $20 since we are having a very casual bbq wedding and they found a more expensive dress that they said they wanted to wear..so budget isnt the problem

View Quoted Comment I met these two at work and I have a feeling it was because I quit working there due to not enough hours..

View Quoted Comment My other two bridesmaids are fine one of them even brought up the deadline which I wasnt going to tell them a deadline yet. Both were so excited and sending me pictures of dresses and ideas but after leaving that work space they've gone ghost. Moving on from my job was an important thing for me and my FH since it was affecting us drastically financial wise. Which to both I expresses before leaving and they understood. I feel like something else is going on between the two that they wont share with me...

View Quoted Comment Did you talk with them on a normal basis before asking them to be in the wedding?

View Quoted Comment Yes we all talked almost daily which is why it's so off guard

I think you are in the right to do whatever you see fit. When someone refuses to engage in any kind of contact for a long period of time, that’s when you cut your losses and move on. There’s no point in bringing yourself down because of their actions.

View Quoted Comment Thank you..its became such a baggage I've called,text,I let them chose their dress they all liked and agreed on... i asked my third bridesmaid to be my bridesmaid a month after these two i had everything ready just she was busy and i felt such a huge relief when i did. She doesnt text me 24/7 but she still engages i was shocked when she asked when I think she should order the dress by since I didnt give a deadline.I knew not to expect to talk 24/7 but a little engaging in conversations

Get it over with sooner than later. Unless something serious happened, ghosting isn't ok or a mature response to a problem. I wouldn't put up with that.. they should be reasonably available to discuss things and be happy and excited.

My cousin had this same scenario and she waited until the last possible moment for the bridesmaids to get their dresses ordered, when she found out they still hadn’t, she sent everyone who hadn’t ordered their dresses a text stating that she was having to cut them. I think it’s just a matter of respect for you. As far as asking your friend, depending on the closeness of your relationship, you run the risk of her feeling like a last minute replacement and having the funds to order her dress. If she’s the understanding type she may be fine with it but I’d proceed with the conversation with care. It’s possible to have two bridesmaids walk with one groomsman maybe.

Don't add another bridesmaid for the purpose of evening out your wedding party. Because it'll just make it obvious you are using them as a fill in

View Quoted Comment Yeah I get that. I had a junior bridesmaid that stepped down to being a flower girl to help her little sister walk down the isle and I know she would like to be a bridesmaid

One of my bridesmaid hasnt talked or responded to my calls and texts since april 20th so you could probably understand my frustration and the other since may 10th. The bridesmaid who hasnt responded to me since april has me very frustrated. I did everything the last forum I made told me and took the advice given but still no progress.

View Quoted Comment You sure did say that. Then um cut them. They aren't interested 😑 and flakey at best. You don't need that