My stepdaughter is getting married next August. Her mother died when she was 11 and I married her father when she was 14. It took some adjustment and we get along fine. I know I'm not her mom and can't be a replacement for her mom. But, she has left me out quite a bit when it comes to the wedding. She tells my husband wedding details via text, email, etc. My stepdaughter works from home and sometimes has down time and she'll text my husband or email things about the wedding. I know it sounds probably ridiculous on my part, I do feel hurt in a way that I'm not being included.
Again, I know I'm not her mom and probably don't really deserve to be involved in the wedding. I think part of the reason I'm hurting is because I only have a son from my previous marriage and I don't expect to be included in wedding planning if he gets married because I know it's not common for mothers of the grooms to be included in wedding planning.
I know it was probably stupid on my part to expect my stepdaughter to include me in her wedding. I'm wondering if anyone here has been in similar situations. Again, I know i'm not entitled to anything from my stepdaughter and the only person who is entitled is my husband.