I'm a bridesmaid but my best friend isn't

I don’t think you need to feel bad. You were asked to be in the wedding and that’s the bride’s decision. Your bf can’t expect to always have the same relationships with people that you do. The bride still wants to include her in activities which is very nice.

View Quoted Comment I don't necessarily think I should feel bad, I just also feel there might bea best way to tell her without it seeming like I was hiding it or like I'm bragging?

View Quoted Comment I’d just tell her then so she doesn’t think you’re hiding it. You can’t control how she receives it so if you tell her and she takes it like you’re bragging, she has to work through her own feelings.

This happens all the time in friend groups. I wouldnt worry about it coming across as bragging, just have it come up naturally in conversation.

I would just mention it casually and not bring it up again. She will most likely feel a little left out, but not talking about wedding stuff all the time will help.

I wouldn’t overthink this, just tell her when it comes up. It’s not like it was your choice anyway. I’m sure she’ll understand and appreciate still being included in the bridal events. It’s all the fun with none of the commitment/expense!

A similar thing just happened in my friend group. It all worked out ok 😁

Just tell her and not make a big deal about it. If you don't tell her, you'll make it weird. 18 months from now, nobody will care.

This is a common occurrence and you don’t need to say anything. She would already know that she isn’t a bridesmaid if the bride has not approached her to ask. Out of curiosity, how far away is the wedding? Based on past posts here, it backfires badly for the bride to ask anyone before 6 months before the wedding.


Also something that many people don’t seem to realize is that not everyone enjoys being a bridesmaid nor do they feel it is an honor and they prefer to be a guest. However that is considered forbidden/incorrect thinking. Not everyone can afford expenses (usually only the dress for a laid back bride but can include so much more if the bride is uptight and demanding) involved nor do they want to deal with the emotional obligations involved. A guest simply brings a gift for the couple, supports their union at the ceremony and has fun at the reception. Contrary to popular belief, that is a huge honor to be invited to participate as a guest.