If you could change anything

If I had known the amount of "yeses" that turned into "no's" that were coming I would have combined my 2 receptions. I had people tell me there was NO WAY they were missing our wedding ..... only to call before sending their rsvp declining attendance. Some were VERY VALID with last minute family emergencie (all medical) but others? Sketchy, and tbh pretty hurtful.


As far as tips/tricks that are useful (no one can predict attendance) I would just have done a quick check on the reception set up before doing 'the walk'. We had a day of Coordinator who did an outstanding job, but you know how we all read through these forums with "I can't get that (insert problem) out of my head"? Well it took me a good month to get over the silly escort card fiasco. The Coordinator put them in table order, when I had them all in alphabetical order! Silly. I KNOW, but alphabetically is the correct way - people can find their name quickly and move on. If I had looked over the reception area I could have caught that. 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't have accepted financial help from family without an explicit and specific conversation about what they wanted input on and what they would not get an opinion on. We were so grateful that our family was going to pay for the wedding that we didn't really ask questions. This ended up being a huge mistake and the wedding was threatened to be cancelled (by us and by family) more than once. We ended up with no one being very happy with the day (well, the guests had fun! But those involved in planning did not lol)

It ended with us eloping so we didn't have to associate our anniversary with our wedding day, and me not liking our wedding day and blocking most of it out.

The one thing we would've changed would be to splurge on buying my husband's suit instead of renting. The whole thing about men's suit rentals where they're shipped in the week before the wedding and you get one, maybe two fittings before the wedding (at least was the case for our suit rental place) is just not enough time for perfect alterations.


My husband ordered a slim-fit suit, and what he recieved two days before the wedding was *not* slim-fit. He asked the shop if they could take it in more, they said they wouldn't have time. He's pretty upset with certain wedding photos simply because he's swimming in his suit.

So if anyone gets anything out of this thread, buy your husband's suit and get it tailored. You bought your dress and had multiple fittings, make sure your husband looks equally as nice on the day! And he has more chances to wear it again someday...


And compared to a shot in motion where you can see more of his slim figure