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If you already sent ahead a gift, do you bring a card too?

Jo, on May 17, 2018 at 8:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19

This questions is about what you do when you're a guest. If you've already sent a gift to the couple ahead of their wedding day, do you bring anything with you to the wedding? Just a card? A very small gift? Nothing?

If you already sent ahead a gift, do you bring a card too? 1

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Latest activity by Liana, on May 17, 2018 at 6:56 PM
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    Savvy October 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I'd bring a small gift if you already gave a card.
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  • Yoomie
    VIP October 2018
    Yoomie ·
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    I usually send my wedding gifts ahead of the wedding, so they can be delivered to the couple's home. I usually don't bring anything to the wedding if I've done that.
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  • Ashley1luv3
    Expert May 2019
    Ashley1luv3 ·
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    If you already sent a gift, you don't need to bring a card gift.
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  • EML
    Dedicated June 2018
    EML ·
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    When we've sent a gift ahead to the couple's house I've always had the intention of bringing a card but have forgotten the card on the two occasions where we sent the gift to their house....

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  • Brianna
    VIP May 2018
    Brianna ·
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    We've never actually done this because we usually just give money for the actual wedding. But I think we would still bring an actual card to the wedding too, just no gift with it.

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  • Jillian
    Devoted August 2018
    Jillian ·
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    I send the gift ahead mostly so I don’t have to carry anything and the couple doesn’t have to carry anything, so I don’t bring a card to the wedding
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    Super December 2018
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    I like to bring a card to the weddings I attend. I prefer to give money or contribute to a fund, so it is nice to also have something tangible from me, personally, in which I can leave a short message of love and encouragement at the actual wedding.
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  • Raina
    Super October 2017
    Raina ·
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    If I would have already sent a gift I would probably still bring a card just w/o anything in it. I don't know about you but I am very sentimental and I love looking back at all the sweet cards and words people had for me and DH. I don't believe you absolutely have to though.

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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    I bring a card without anything in it when I have had the gift shipped to the couple.
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  • Teresa
    Super September 2018
    Teresa ·
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    If I sent a gift (normally I just give cash) then I would still bring a nice card with a heart felt message in it.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Probably not. I’d maybe bring a card if I remembered, but I’m awful at remembering cards (it’s usually a “crap! Stop on the way!” And I’m not doing that if I’ve already sent the gift)
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  • NVV2B
    VIP January 2019
    NVV2B ·
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    If I have already sent a gift, I do not bring a card or anything to the wedding. I do the same thing for showers. (If the shower is local, and the bride & groom are local, I bring the gift wrapped in person, however if the shower isnt local, or the couple isnt local, then I ship it to their home ahead of time)

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    Following good etiquette, I send the gift and the card ahead of the wedding. Any expectation that I would bring another gift is absurd. The guest who still bring their gift to the wedding, with it's corresponding hassle to the family of ensuring its' safety, don't bring two gifts.

    Money in a card is the gift most likely to get stolen at a wedding. These days with so many ways to make money transfers, there is no longer any need to bring cash to a wedding.

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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    I usually give money, so it wouldn't be an option for me. But, I would always at least bring a card with me to the wedding. For me, the card is important too - giving the couple best wishes for their life together.

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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·
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    If I've sent a gift ahead of time I bring a card to the wedding. I don't feel comfortable showing up to a wedding completely empty handed.

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    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    It’s not customary here to send gifts to the bride and groom, they’re brought to the wedding, but if I had done this I’d definitely still bring a card.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    I have never heard of sending a gift ahead of time, I always give cash in a card, so I bring it to the wedding.

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  • A_Mart
    Super April 2025
    A_Mart ·
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    I usually send a card with the gift--I love that most registries will deliver packages straight to the couple now, not having to deal with transporting a bunch of stuff after your wedding is hopefully a relief to most!

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  • Liana
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    Liana ·
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    When we give a physical gift at a bridal shower then we also bring a card with cash to the wedding. If they didn't have a bridal shower then we would just bring a card with cash to the wedding. That's our preference.

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