Maggie
Just Said Yes August 2020

If we make our wedding just family, due to Covid-19, what do we do with gifts people have already sent?

Maggie, on June 25, 2020 at 1:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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We have started receiving gifts for our wedding - from people we have invited, and are genuinely hoping to see at the celebration. But we are still not sure if we'll be able to host the wedding we planned. If we cut it to immediate family, what do we do with gifts we've already received from friends who are on our current guest list?

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Latest activity by Mrs. Coakley, on June 28, 2020 at 6:48 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would just keep it and send a thank you card.

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  • Kerin
    Super February 2021
    Kerin ·
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    You send a really nice thank you note along with your "change of plan"/"unvitation" card. Smiley winking

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Etiquette would say that you should reach out to them and offer to send the gift back.

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  • Sutina
    Savvy July 2020
    Sutina ·
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    I think most people wouldn't mind sending a gift to a wedding they were originally invited to. I know I had to downsize and uninvited guests still sent me gifts because they wanted to.

    I would definitely send a nice thank you card

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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
    Christina ·
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    I agree with this
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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
    Christina ·
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    Keep it. I had my moms coworker give me a gift before the pandemic and she wasn’t invited to the wedding. She just wanted to give. Just send a thank you and a classy worded uninvited card. I know me personally I plan on still gifting a family friends wedding that we now have to watch on zoom because of the pandemic.
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  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
    Hillary ·
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    Keep the gifts. We had to postpone our big wedding like a month before the date. We still got married but have since postponed our big wedding a second time. People are still sending us gifts even now. Covid-19 turned life upside down. I highly doubt your guests would expect you to send gifts back.
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  • Olivia
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Olivia ·
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    I would say most people would want you to keep it! I personally would never ask anyone to send their gifts back if I was unable to attend for reasons such as covid. I'm sure they understand!
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    You really should return them, or at least offer to return them.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    These guests meant enough to you that you invited them to your wedding. Therefore, they didn’t get you a gift simply as an entry “ticket” into your wedding. No! They bought you a gift because you’re getting married, starting a new life and they care about you. So etiquette or not (and attendance or not), I truly doubt that your guest would want you to call and try and return their gift. They weren’t uninvited “just because”. Instead, these are very special circumstances and everyone is aware of COVID-19. So they will totally understand the need for following guidelines and having a smaller wedding.
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    I agree with pp keep it and send thabknyou cards. You can always celebrate with them next year or few years later as a vow renewal
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    You call them or talk with them directly, and tell them , and offer to send the gift back. Some will say, you are still getting married, keep the gift, and we wish you well. Others will tell you whether to return items to the store, or to them personally. If they do not see you marry, they won't give a gift. Or, they will keep it until you do marry, or have a reception they are invited.
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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    If you are uninviting guests, you absolutely need to send the gifts back.

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