If we aren't having a registry, can we just not mention anything about gifts on the invitations?

You are correct...don't put anything. people will get the hint!

Please, please hide this post.

For the record - you never mention gifts on the invitation. Epitome of rude.

It's fine not to mention anything on the invites. We didn't have a registry and the majority of guests understood what that meant. Some guests asked my parents on what to get and she relayed the message of a card is fine. In the end all of our guests that attended gave us cash/check and only two gave an actual gift.

Invitations should not have a mention of registries or gifts on them.

You should never put anything about a registry (either way) on your actual invites. You are correct, people will get the hint. Just be prepared that some people has this "need" to buy you something so you may end up with a gift or 2 you may not want.

I definitely don't think your shower hosts should put surprise us on the invitations! I agree with you. Your hosts shouldn't mention anything about gifts since you don't want a registry.

Edited: Whoops, my bad. I automatically assumed shower!

You should never mention registries or gift requests on an invitation. Big etiquette no-no ... whether you have 0 registries or 15 registries.

People who don't want to give you gifts will not give you gifts, whether it is mentioned or not.

And people that do want to give you gifts will give you gifts.

Why should she hide this post? Anyway, you are correct OP! Just don't put anything on the invitations and people will get the hint.

Wait, we just got invited to a wedding and it had the registry on it. I thought that was ok. How will people know where you are registered?

And, KD, why hide?

Yep, OP you're right. Don't mention anything about gifts on the invitation. If people want to give you something, they will. Tell FH he's off base on this one haha.

Usually there is an information card insert for invitations, that's where people list where they are registered or to visit their wedding website for more information.

Mrscrane, we aren't having any showers. Just a wedding

She is saying hide because she thinks the post is going to go badly. registries are a touchy subject on here. No need to hide though, you were simply asking a question and looking for advice.

But yes, putting registry information actually ON the invite is considered rude and a big no-no on here. You should just have it on your wedding website and let your family know so they can spread the word. Realistically...most people don't buy gifts for weddings, even if there is a registry. Most people bring cash because it's easier. most gift come at the shower, not wedding reception.

If you don't say anything, people will most likely just give cash or a check. Putting your fiancé's suggestion on the invite is a terrible, terrible idea, almost worse than having registry information because his wording clearly is asking for gifts.

Even if you received an invite with a registry on it, that's still not ok. Registry info may be put on shower invites, the website, or spread by word of mouth.

Registries have no place on an invitiation. Indicate that more information can be found on your website, where your registry is. If you don't have one just don't mention gifts anywhere, your guests may ask, then just say you don't have one. Also - don't have a shower if there isn't a registry, that is both awkward and rude.

Just because someone else put a registry on their invitation doesn't make it right. They were being tacky. No need to mention anything. If people really want to get you a tangible gift they think you really need, they will ask you or those close to you. Or they will Google you to see if you have a registry. Otherwise they will give cash or gift cards.

Oh we are def not having a shower. We are having a low key wedding and are planning it all in 4 months. No time or reason for a shower.

Typically registry information is spread by word of mouth. Family or friends can ask your parents or MOH where you're registered but according to etiquette, you're not supposed to have it printed on the invite. Not everybody knows that rule though, which is why you got an invite with it on it.

OP - posts of this nature will garner a multitude of responses even after it is acknowledged that it is probably best not to include this verbiage on the invitation. If you are ok with multiple notifications in your email, feel free to keep it up - but I wanted to advise you of how these generally play out.

I like how everyone is just stating that "it's rude to do it" without taking in the obvious context of SHE DOESN'T WANT TO.

F*ck.

Like everyone else said, just leave it off, even if you had a registry you wouldn't have anything on there, so let your FH know that.