If people dont rsvp

If your contract is for 80 people, then you should only invite 80 people.

Did you try to contact the ones who have not RSVP'd? Did you invite over your limit? I would not turn anyone away.

I did contact those that didnt rsvp. No I didnt invite over limit, but they heard and just hoping they don't try and just show up. I dont want to turn anyibe away.

You shouldn’t have to turn anyone away. You should only be inviting 80 people. Not 80 people with plus ones, not 80 people not counting kids, 80 people period. If you invite 100 people you should have the contract, space and money to pay for 100 people.

If you have invited the guests you can't turn them away at the door. I would reach out to those who haven't RSVP'd and ask if they are able to attend or not so that you can give your venue an accurate guest count.

View Quoted Comment If anyone shows up that wasn't personally invited, that's very rude. I couldn't imagine anyone doing that.

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If people you don't invite show up, which is rude, they should be turned away. You shouldn't be responsible for their bad etiquette.

View Quoted Comment My thoughts exactly, but not saying they will or wont sinetines peopke dont know how these things work before i started planning i didnt kniw how they worked so it could be the fact they dont know, but I dont want to pay for them being wedding uneducated....... that was the best way i knew to say it🤗🤗🤗🤗

If uninvited people just show up, I wouldn't even feel bad turning them away. Who does that?

You can’t turn people away. You shouldn’t have invited more people than you could accommodate. You have to call all of the guests who have not RSVPed and find out how many people are coming. What are you going to do about feeding everyone?

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She answered these questions above.

I’m confused. Did they reach out to you to see if they can attend? Why are you concerned more people will show up?
I also agree that you shouldn’t turn people away. I guess it depends on the situation. But if you end up turning people away, it’ll hurt people’s feelings and look bad on you.

So are they people you did not invite? Or people that did not RSVP?

If they weren't invited, don't let them in. If the haven't RSVP'd yet, call them and ask if they are coming. You should not have invited more people than you could pay for.

Write on the invite " one invite per person" or " strictly by invite". Create table numbers and assign names to the tables. Place it outside the hall so guest will have to pick their names before entering. Any civilised person will go back home, if they don't see their names, especially if they were not invited.
Why will you even show up if you are not invited. So uncivilized. Weddings cost money and everybody knows that.

I am inviting 150 people and that's it. If you not on my guest list you going home. No need going broke after a wedding because of an uninvited guest.

If you can afford for only 80 people, let the rest go home. Better than being broke or in debt after your wedding. You wouldn't wanna start your marriage on that note.

View Quoted Comment I didnt ibvite more than what i was suppose to they heard through the grapvine and called me. Most people use churches and it is unlimited invite. I used a hall and they are not use to that kind of order.

View Quoted Comment I actually understand your concern. The way weddings are in the US are different than what my family is used to. I've had to "educate" my closest family members... things like, there is no "maybe" it is yes or no. There is no, I may bring my kids, there are no kids invited. Having to pump the breaks on my sister and mother talking to people about the wedding that are not invited and assuming they can also invite people as they wish.

All in all, my venue will be prepared to serve up to 5% more guests if needed. The reality is that if you feel this is a possibility (which I do in my case but know that it is not the norm!) then you may want to leave a little room in your budget to accomodate say 2 to 3 people who may show up with the best intentions of sharing your day but fail to follow proper etiquette by simply not knowing any better.

If you really don't have the room in the budget and this happens, yes, you may need to very nicely turn them away.

Sorry! Good luck.

View Quoted Comment I agree with that.

View Quoted Comment Glad you & a couple of others feel me it gets crazy sometimes 🙃

I’m sorry you have to worry about that! I’m so glad that’s not the case for me. I can see how that would be crazy. I’d say have people spread the word it’s only invitees.