If a couple asks for "no gifts", do you bring one anyway?

A. A card is typically a nice gesture that I would bring - if I was terribly close to the person, I'd attach a gift.

B. Maybe something along the lines of "We desire only the gift of your presence." Cheesy but kinda cute.

I think if it were an anniversary party, I probably wouldn't bring a gift, gift. I would probably bring a bottle of wine and a card.

A: I would bring a card and a bottle of wine.

B: sorry, I don't have anything clever for this question

I would just bring a card. I would not think about bringing a gift to an anniversary party other than a hostess gift that I would normally give.

When we renewed our vows for our 20th anniversary, I put on the invitation:

No gifts, please. Your presence would be the best present.

However, as the traditional gift for the 20th anniversary is china,

please give us your marital advice for the next 20 years

in the form of a Chinese cookie fortune, i.e.,

“Confucius says, To keep wedding ring shining like new,

soak in dishwater three times daily.”

Received only a couple of gifts and some interesting advice!

Nancy T, that's really cute. The one "big" anniversary party i attended (for my aunt and uncle's 30th wedding anniversary), I gave them a card with a gift card. I think some people will, so people won't and as long as you don't open anything while at the party it will all go well. (I can't imagine anything more awkward than watching gifts/cards being opened if you haven't brought one yourself!)

I always do.

It depends. If it's a renewal as in you guys had circumstances that made you need to get the legalities out of the way beforehand I'd bring a gift. If on the other hand it is a vow renewal vow renewal and you're simply renewing your vows or it's an anniversary party I'd just get you a card, and wouldn't expect to see any mention of gifts at all. Honestly would think it was odd for you to mention "no gifts necessary" because I would assume no gifts.

I've never been to a vow renewal, but I've been to a couple of anniversary parties. I just usually brought a card and maybe a bottle of wine. I wouldn't think to bring gifts to a vow renewal because it's not a wedding.

You doing a vow renewal next year with different people? They may bring gifts if they didn't make the first wedding

As long as everyone knows it's not your actual wedding, they can decide for themselves whether they want to bring a gift. i don't think you need to include anything

Card I think. If i was really close, I would probably include some cash or a giftcard for a dinner or something.

I would bring a card with a monetary gift in it. I would leave it up to people to decide what to do.