Idk how to Make myself excited for the wedding

Hi Nikki! I feel you and if it makes you feel any better during my proposal I had a terrible case of bronchitis!! I learned the hard way, nothing is perfect and that is true for everyone! Once you set a date and plans are underway, excitement will come! Keep in mind, only you can control your happiness ❤️ Wishing you the best and Congratulations on being engaged 🌿🌼❤️

View Quoted Comment Hi Katie! Oh no I’m so sorry about bronchitis but congrats on your engagement as well! I know you’re so right. I guess I’m just in a rut and need to pull myself out. Thank you for the kind words it means the world to me 💕

I'm sorry you feel this way! My engagement was not a surprise or unexpected. I asked for a ring for Christmas not knowing he had bought one months ago. Well about three weeks before he proposed he got a card addressed to him in the mail from the jewelry store! So I knew it was officially coming, and the night he did he left the ring on our entertainment center right before he proposed! So I didn't get that surprise factor. Nothing ever goes as planned, I would definitely sit down with your fiancé and tell them how you're feeling! Don't worry about the extended family! We are in a fight with his brother and sister in law (have been for months now), they never offered me congratulations but they just got engaged last night, barely a month after us. I say just dive into the planning and try to get into it! Look at wedding videos and photos of other couples to figure out what you want! Maybe that will spark some excitement in you!

I'm so sorry you feel this way! I also felt forgotten when I first got engaged. I've noticed that people get more excited once you set a date and start planning. It can be really difficult to plan when you're not excited, so ask your fiancé to do some planning with you or choose someone like a sibling or parent that can help you plan if you want. I've seen other people also get bride subscription boxes to help them get excited, so maybe you could try that? Good luck!

It's definitely smart to try to figure out how to make yourself happy since it's not realistic to rely on anyone else for that. So, I am totally behind you asking for ways you and your fiancé can feel celebrated.

For wedding planning, start by having a good conversation about how you each envision the wedding. Pick a few things you each feel are really important, and then make sure your budget can accommodate those things. That will help you narrow down venues, which is how you will be able to set a date.

As for the two of you celebrating your engagement, I would brainstorm things to do that feel especially fun and celebratory and are possible to do right now during COVID. That way you can start the celebrations without getting disappointed about all the things that aren't currently possible. Good luck, I know you can do this!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Merissa! I really like that idea of looking at inspiration, maybe it’ll get me going thank you so much and I’m sorry your sister and brother in law have been so rude - congrats on your engagement!!

View Quoted Comment Hi Elizabeth! Omg I really love that idea of a bride subscription box, any favorites you know of? And yes I can definitely depend on my sister so I’ll reach out to her, I guess I just felt like a bother before. Thank you so much and I’m sorry you felt the same. I hope you are feeling better!

View Quoted Comment Hi Maggie! Thank you for the support, I’ve learned a long time ago no one can make you happy but yourself, which is a great thing to learn. And you’re right, I was brainstorming last night and do you think maybe a zoom party on the date of our year anniversary of the engagement? Do you think that’s tacky that I’m throwing it myself? I guess I can ask my sister to cover my tracks lol

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It's typically considered rude to throw oneself a party where guests are expected to spend money (e.g., bridal showers and bachelorette parties). But since no one would be spending money to travel, buy gifts, or pay for activities at a Zoom party, I think organizing it yourself is fine.

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I haven't tried a subscription box myself, but I included a link to a different forum post about them. I wanted to make sure I only got things I would use, so I went on a "shopping spree" at TJ Maxx and found "bride" and "mrs." items that I like.

Now that I've been planning more and it's getting closer to our wedding date, I'm much more excited! Hope this helps!

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/subscription-boxes/df84e90f7cc21b51.html

Hi Nikki!

I've tried the MissToMrs Box subscription, and the items from my first box made my wedding planning so much exciting! It was especially awesome, as I had a positive COVID-19 test and stayed self-isolated. For me, it was a perfect reminder that I'll become a bride soon!

My new jewelry wipes make my ring sparkling, and I'm wearing my necklace every day!

Traditionally, with long engagements usually 2 years or more, even if they had an engagement party when first engaged 3-4 years ago, or simply no party, they may have a second or original party at close to a year down to 9 months before the wedding itself. People engaged who are waiting to get out or the service, or school, or their first job, will often move in this time, and have no Idea of who they will have on their guest list. So they have an announcement party, with anyone they want there. Of course 2,3,5 years later, they may have left school, job or work friends behind. Moved, or moved on. So many people were never at their party. ... Once they decide to start serious wedding planning, make a guest list , with a tentative venue and month, and usually before choosing ( or at least announcing) their attendants, they have a kick off the wedding planning type engagement
party. Only the people invited to the wedding may be included. As large or as small as they want. Usually a family hosts it, or friends. Older couples long on their own may give their own. ...
You never did the announcement thing, and are now just feeling like something is needed to psych you and everyone else up for this change. Many people think, If I did not do it when first engaged, it is to late. Not so. There is a many generations tradition of waiting til the guest list is mostly known, at least the most important ones you want at a party. And as there is nothing BM and GM need to do before 6 months out, asking privately but only publicly announcing any at 8-12 months is another step that may change your feeling.

My Mom supported me in this difficult engagement journey and gifted me with Miss To Mrs 6 months subscription.

All the products in my first Miss To Mrs Box were so cute! I wore my new amazing T-shirt right away! I found the wedding planner tools extremely helpful, and can’t wait to see what will come in my second box!