Ideas for asking groomsmen...

You are not "supposed" to give a gift to either BM's or groomsmen when you ask them to be in the wedding party. It's purely voluntary and often overdone. Men don't do it as much as they are not so prone to copy every cutesy thing they see on PInterest.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. It really is not needed.

^^^yes. Proposals are really unnecessary and put pressure on people. Just call and ask!

FH didn’t give a gift when he asked...actually, he barely asked them. Lol we’re just giving them a gift the day before at the rehearsal.

I think the bridal party "proposal" is just a new trendy fun thing to do. I believe it's a matter of preference. I'm doing the proposal and probably not getting another gift. so I say one or the other not both.

No gift or be to-do needed to ask someone to be in your wedding or for being in your wedding

I will be doing this for my entire bridal party! Is it a must? No, but it is appreciated. I was in a wedding where we didn’t get a cutesy proposal, no day of (or leading up) gift, and no verbal thank you (yeah nothing, even hosting the shower alone, addressing ALL of the invites and assembling them [I was asked to do this, but damn, a thank you would have been nice], or giving a bridal shower gift, bachelorette gift, decorating the reception, you get the point). Anyways SOME type of gesture would have been appreciated!

I will be doing cards and something small - nothing fancy for my girls (2 bm’s).

Fiance found some cigars to give his guys - it says will you be my groomsman - and it pretty cheap.

Then something cute for our flower girl and two ring bearer.

Then on the day of I will have stuff for everyone too! Since we have a small bridal party I will be doing a lot for the day of gifts, but for proposal I wanna do something small. I know the guys really don’t care but I feel like girls do like something other than just a verbal thank you, yeah they are your friends, but they are going to do a lot for you leading up and then on the actual day, so giving some small gifts might seem silly to some, but its a nice gesture.

My FH has been a groomsmen in many weddings, but never received a gift.

For us, we had a small mixer to get our wedding party acquainted. I was giving bridesmaid boxes, so he agreed to get his guys gifts too. I had seen groomsmen box pics pop up when I was looking for ideas for my boxes. He got them a whiskey glass, cigar (from where our destination reception is), and a mini whiskey. Those were the right gift from him to them, because it was something they all like.

Let me say, the guys LOVED it! They are a tight knit group and were so surprised to receive something for the first time as a groomsmen. It was absolutely worth it! Google to find some inspo, and choose a few things that makes sense for your FH's groomsmen.

It could be as simple as personalized whiskey glasses, or beer cozies, or a tshirt, etc.