i would rather elope!!!

It doesn't have to be stressful! Just take it one step at a time, that's what I did. Of course you can just be honest with them and say you changed your mind, but I also wonder what your reason for changing your mind was. If you were asking so many people to be in the wedding, does that mean you were excited about having a wedding in the first place and that you might regret changing your mind later? If you just felt pressured to have a wedding and it was never what you wanted, then I would just be honest and let them know! They might be a little disappointed at first but I'm sure they will be fine and there's no real reason for them to get their feelings hurt about that!

Well I originally was hoping for more money back from my taxes and from school. I found out I’m getting a lot less and I’m basically out $3k that I thought I was going to have.

I feel for you. I'm three days out and while I'm partly really excited I'm also REALLY tired of all this planning and wishing we had quietly gone to Vegas.

Elope. Apologize.

If take a week or so to make sure eloping is what you really want and it’s not a quick reaction to major stress that you will regret later! But if it’s what you want to do, go for it! I am eloping as well, I’ve always known I wanted to do that so easy decision for me. Your family should respect your decision, I’d tell them you’re sorry but you’ve changed plans. What should matter to them is your happiness and not if they’re standing up with you.

Do a destination wedding type. That’s what we are doing. We still have our bm and gm and stuff but with us going to California for our wedding instead of in our home town, we went from 250 guests to 25. Which saved us a bunchhhh of money!

We are having a small under 30 people beach wedding with a brewpub/restaurant reception. You could still have your wedding and include those people. Just pare down the guest list substantially and go simple! Honestly, we are pretty much done our wedding planning and it’s not until July! Low stress way to go if you don’t want to elope.

I know the stress. We are 6 months from and I'm hands down just ready for it to be over with. Take some time away from the wedding planning. If you still just wish to elope then just explain to those you asked to be involved that you have decided to change the plans and would love to celebrate with them after.

We are eloping! We knew going into it that my family would be an issue. Along with a lot of personal reasons we knew we wanted our actual wedding day stress free and drama free. We are eloping and having a vowrenewal/celebration later on to have our family and friends celebrate with us. This way makes sense for us, if it makes sense for you then you should have your wedding day be how you want your wedding say to be! With that said i think you should totally think and rethink about it. Ask yourself questions like will you regret not having everyone there? How important is others opinions about your day to you? Bc if those answers are yes i will regret it and very important then perhaps its not right for you! Personally very few support our choice, but we do not care. We know what we want and its a private ceremony for just us.