i was the random plus one

Throughout my time here on WW I have seen topic after topic about plus ones and the rules/etiquette surrounding them. I know this story probably won't change any minds but it's just food for thought for those who are conflicted or wondering what to do!


I see people often say "I don't want random plus ones" when discussing the issue. Well, at one point, that was me. My now fiance and I had been dating less than a month when his best friend was getting married. His invitation wasn't plus one. It was "to [name] and [name]" with the second being his now ex girlfriend. Since then, they split up and we got together. Since the original RSVP was 2 yes', and therefore it wouldn't affect headcount or food budget, he asked if me could bring a date. His BRAND NEW girlfriend. Like 2 weeks. They had every right to say no, it wouldn't have broken etiquette or anything, but they said yes.
We hit 4 years next week and are getting married this year and here's the thing: we see these people (large group of friends) almost every single month and some months more than once! They are people who witnessed my engagement, will be at my wedding, who we see so often. I wouldn't have held it against them in the slightest not to have allowed me, but they did, and now I'm in pictures at their wedding and they'll be in ours.
So, you never know the legitimacy of another person's relationship, and the rules like "not living together" or "under 6 months" may mean excluding someone who might be close to you someday. Just tossing my story out there, for the conflicted people.

If you ever watched How I Met Your Mother it reminds me of season 5, episode 18 "say cheese" where they show Ted inviting Lily into their photo lol.