i was asked to be a Moh...not sure what to do?

My best friend and her H were married in the courthouse first (he was in the military at the time and being deployed several months later). A year later, they had a large "ceremony" and reception. She didn't have a MOH, but I, along with 5 or 6 others (of all different ages) were in the wedding and simply took her for a night out on the town for a sort of "bachelorette party". Maybe consult with her parents to see what they think? It's become a lot more common for mothers to get involved with planning their daughters' bridal showers.

Considering she is already married, I would assume you don't do any of those things. Maybe do a wedding shower (coed) vs a bridal shower and talk to the Best Man and see about doing a bridal party luncheon or night out, also coed.

I would be a bit confused about going to a bridal shower or a bach party to celebrate someone getting married when they already are, although I do understand why they did and why you would be questioning your role. Good luck!

A bridal shower would actually be pretty inappropriate at this point. They would technically be doing a big vow renewal, which don't require any pre-event parties. If you'd really like to, doing some sort of luncheon or girls night out would probably work best.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. She's be 21 by then so we could do a night out on the town. I'm 9 years older than her, so I wouldn't be able to keep up with her friends 😅. I guess I'll just run everything by her mom and go from there.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. Yes I was a bit confused on what I should and should not do. Seems like we will have to do everything coed.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. Just asking for clarification. I dont want any guest or family to be confused by throwing these pre-events. This is a "celebration of marriage"..got it!

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Totally get that! It can get a bit confusing for sure, especially when it's not your own situation, haha

They may be legally married already, but I personally think times are changing! If you/others want to throw her those events, you should do it! She deserves to be celebrated just like any other bride. She’s still a bride, so I don’t see why there wouldn’t be a bridal shower and bachelorette party (to celebrate her recent legal marriage and upcoming celebration of their marriage).

A little late to the response party, but I would say throw whatever you, her and her mother feel like. If your friend is out of town on a business trip for a few weeks over her 30th birthday, you wouldn't hear "why? she's already been thirty for a while?"

While this doesn't match social "norms", times are changing and anyone you'd invite to either a shower or a night out probably wouldn't care that she is already married anyways.