i want to move my wedding date up a year but i really love the sound of our wedding year in October 2020.

No, we wanted to get married as soon as our schedule and budget allowed. There are lots of reasons to have a long engagement but I've never heard of this one. Why wait all the way until October?

October is the month we want to be married. I love the fall leaves and weather. It’s just a beautiful month. It’s us deciding to be married in 2019 or 2020 that I’m having a hard time deciding.

How many guests do you plan on hosting for 10k? If you don't have any budget problems then go ahead and move it to 2019, just make sure you're not forgeting a lot of things that add up to thousands of dollars: vendor tips, linens, chairs, invitations, save the dates, postage, wedding party gifts, alterations, event insurance, etc.

10K is our budget, but my parents are giving us another 10K to cover an extras that don’t fit in our 10K budget as well as my fiancé’s parents paying for the rehearsal dinner. We are having about 150-200 guests. It really isn’t that hard to have a beautiful wedding for 10-15K. You look at venues you love and can afford. You consider your catering options, $25-35/pp is a reasonable price for food. A lot of venues will include decor in the price and it also depends on the style of venue reception. We did not want any ballroom, banquet hall, country club, etc. venues. We wanted more of a rustic, vineyard, garden, barn theme. I mean I was able to find my wedding gown for $25 and just need to pay for alterstions to take it in. That alone saved us 1-4K. It takes more research because you can’t just pay for convience with 10K.

Right on! Sounds like you're ready then for 2019. I know you like the sound of 2020, but you might get too anxious waiting that long lol

I’m so anxious now!!! I also loved knowing I would have the extra time to get rid of extra lbs I’ve put on lol

Do whatever feels right for you. I love the sound of our date too, 8.18.18, but I didn't get that date just for the sound of it. It actually, surprisingly, was one of the only open summer dates at my venue?? Which is odd, cause it's a SUPER popular date.

Depending on where you live, $25-$35pp can be hard to find for catering. My MOH had a barn wedding, saved a ton of money on the venue, but most of her costs went to catering alone. But it depends on what type of food you want and the area you are in.

Keeping to your budget is AWESOME, I love your resilience in saying "We're sticking to it!" But I am glad you have that extra 10K to lean on in case you encounter an unexpected cost. I wanted to keep my wedding under $15K, but it's going to be closer to $16K. Not TOO far over, but still, some of the stuff I paid for was a bit more pricey than I imagined.

I would do a pro/con list for the year. On one hand, waiting until 2020 will give you PLENTY of planning time, and you won't have a tough time finding a venue, I think, because it's 2.5 years out.

But sometimes a shorter engagement works better, depending on the couple.

Good luck! Gorgeous dress!

That’s so true because I would love to ask my bridesmaids, and have the engagement party and put out the save the dates but with a our date being out so far I have to wait a year before I can begin asking due to things may change if I ask/hire venues now and it would be a little awkward.

I looked through 500 venues over the course of a few weekends. I made my first cut based on venues we found appealing to our theme. That gave us about 40 venues. Then I made my second cut based on venues we could afford. It’s really outrageous sometimes. Like we could afford to rent the venue, $2-4K no problem. But then they mandated you use their caterers and most had either food minimums of $10K plus or food prices starting at $80-100/pp which would really go over our budget. That left me with about 10 venues. My last cut I based on reviews, some were really scary lol. What I was left with is 6 venues we are driving to see on our spring break this upcoming Monday!!!! We will look at the venue, near by hotels, and the local Catholic Churches 😊.

I’m getting married October 2020. We were thinking October 2019, but we would (hopefully) be in the process of moving, also my parents liked the idea of having the extra year to save up to help with the wedding.

See if any of those venues have October 2019 dates open. If they don't and you're standing at your dream venue, the choice is pretty clear!

THATS a really good point Kristina

We picked our date because of many factors but mostly because it fit perfect into the planning schedule we were comfortable with. We wanted a year or so to plan. We needed some time to save up but it's totally doable on 10K. We have 130 guests and are spending about 16K in NE Florida. I'm definitely an antsy person and we are at the 10 month mark and I'm almost 100% ready with everything bought and ready to go. Now comes super small details and the waiting game. It also sucks watching people get engaged after me and married before me because I'm so ready to get married and waiting is hard! If you do wait until 2020 this would be my only concern. You sound a little ahead of the game already so I'd also consider those factors.

I waited 8 years for my FH to finally decide he was ready to get married. I wouldn't have been willing to wait another year just because of liking the date. lol

The date wasn't that important to us. He wanted June so I just went with it.

There were a few factors in our decision. My cousin is graduating college the month before. We tried to make it far enough away that traveling family wouldn't feel like they were making the trip twice so close together. (Only one of my aunts threw a fit about them still being close. Quite rudely to my cousin -__- ) And I didn't want it the weekend before because it would have been the anniversary of my grandpa passing away.

2020 sounds nice but in the long run for me the year wouldn't matter.

Yeah I would never wait a whole year just because the sound of the year is better.

We've decided to get married on December 3rd 2020 because that's our anniversary and 2020 is a nice year. I think I waiting is for the beat since you can look back and enjoy it even more

I think you’re ready to get married in 2019!

I totally understand though because we picked the date October 24, 2020 because October is our favorite month and 24 is a number in the dates we started dating and got engaged. If we choose to do a city hall wedding, we’d have to change the date because city hall weddings are on M - F and 10/24/20 is a Saturday 🙂

I do think though that if you’re close to finalizing your wedding plans, you should go for it and get married in 2019! But ultimately, it’s your choice!

Update: we moved the wedding to October 4, 2019!!

Date twin 😊😊😊 we choose Oct 3rd 2020 as well and I am in the same boat. FH and I want to plan early so we dont have much to do as the day gets closer.

Congrats Amber!!

I am kind of in same boat as you as well. We just got engaged on August 6th! Originally we wanted to have our wedding a year from now so August 2019, but due to financial strains with mostly my FI, we are moving the date to spring of 2020. I really want to get married sooner because I'm just so excited (and impatient) but I know that this will give us more time to be prepared for the future.

His parents asked us to wait until 2020 since they are gifting us a large amount of money for the wedding, while I will be paying for everything on my own with no financial support from my mother besides my dress. (which I'm planning on buying for super cheap on Amazon I'm very fortunate to have this help from his parents as I will be working my tail off to provide a good chunk of money from my end.

Anyway, I hope all goes well! Happy planning!

Hi, I was wondering what your dress was called, you see, my fiancée mother died in 2021 and we recently found her wedding dress from 1995. I want to wear it but it has loops on all over the back that look like they've held something there. I can't find anything about this dress but this post!!! Please help!!! I would like to know of your dress has these on it and if so what are they for? Thank you!!