I really don't want to have to chase down RSVP's and am sending paper invitations with addressed and stamped RSVP return envelopes so there's really no excuse for guests to not send RSVP's. I know it's something everyone has to do and I will make exceptions for really important family members, but I'm thinking of putting something like this at the bottom of my RSVP's: "If responses are not received by ____, your party will be marked as not attending."
(the top of the RSVP's will say something like: "Please send your response as soon as possible, no later than ____.)
I know it might be a little harsh, but I don't have to time to mess around with grown people who don't know how to put a stamped envelope in the mailbox. I get that people may have conflicts but if you can't commit 6 months in advance, then you probably won't be able to commit at all. We are also having a destination-ish wedding in New Hampshire and my family will be traveling from CA. It will be an intimate wedding of approx. 60 guests (inviting 76 of closest friends and family).
Thoughts? Any advice is greatly appreciated, thanks in advance!