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Just Said Yes February 2020

i want to fire my officiant but there is a problem, he’s my boss

Katie, on September 2, 2019 at 10:52 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 6

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My wedding is 6 months out, I’ve been very anxious about my officiant. I asked my boss who has been a mentor of mine for almost 6 years. Unfortunately over the past year our relationship has changed, we use to be close and now I’ve found myself wanting to quit regularly. I’m very resentful towards him for various reasons and don’t really want him officiating my wedding. I keep hoping these feelings will pass but they haven’t. I feel like I can’t fire him because he’s my boss and he would be really hurt... but this is my special day, and how can I have someone marry us who hasn’t been the most pleasant person to be around. Would like some feedback from everyone. Fire or too late?

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Latest activity by Katie, on September 4, 2019 at 5:38 PM

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Sinéad · on September 4, 2019 at 8:09 AM
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Hey Katie! I’m so sorry that you are feeling like this. It’s never easy when a close relationship changes like this.
If your boss wasn’t officiating your wedding, would he be a guest at your wedding?
If you are set about not having him as your officiant, you could explain to him that you want him to enjoy your wedding as a guest and not to have to work for the day.
Have you met with any other officiants that you would like to have officiate your wedding?
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on September 4, 2019 at 8:12 AM
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I don’t necessarily think it’s too late, but I would really consider the backlash you might face at work if you choose to not have him marry you. Is this job something you plan on leaving soon?
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Just Said Yes February 2020
Katie · on September 4, 2019 at 9:46 AM
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Thank you for your suggestion! I wish I didn’t feel this way, and no that is the other problem we do not have anyone in mind so I’m slightly panicked.
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Just Said Yes February 2020
Katie · on September 4, 2019 at 9:47 AM
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I do plan on leaving next year!
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Devoted September 2020
Jessie · on September 4, 2019 at 3:34 PM
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Is there anyone else you would like to do it? Like maybe a pastor or someone you or your FH grew up with? I would find the person you want to have do it first and then tell him. Don't tell him why you DON'T want HIM, but tell him why you want the other person.
It's your day, you shouldn't remember it by seeing your rude boss's face at the altar. And if you don't plan on staying at this job forever, then do what you need to do. The backlash will only last so long.
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Just Said Yes February 2020
Katie · on September 4, 2019 at 5:38 PM
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Thank you!
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