i want to do a different rsvp wording to ensure responses.

Love it.
You can also do online rsvp and after the deadline shut the option down.

I think it’s fine wording but the issue with not following up is there’s always the possibility that people didn’t receive the invitation or that their rsvp has been lost by the post office. Someone posted recently that at least 10 of their invitations got lost in the mail.

We received an invite where the rsvps quite literally said “if you do not rsvp by —— please bring a chair and a sandwich”. It was hilarious, but also got the point across that they weren’t about to be chasing anyone down for an rsvp, but that if you showed up, you also wouldn’t be fed. Lol

I had quite a few get lost in the mail. If you don’t follow up with them, it’s possible you’ll have people that DID RSVP but you just didn’t receive it, and they’re going to show up and have no seat. That’s not something you’re going to want to deal with on your wedding day. It’s a normal part of the wedding process to have to follow up with guests.

Responses getting “lost” are extremely rare. I believe those who say they Did RSVP most likely did not and said they did. It’s very easy to lie. My RSVP info includes email. So no excuses.

For clarity sake I would be sure to write please RSVP to reserve __ out of 2 seats (that way they know they can’t fill in a larger #).

View Quoted Comment No, it’s actually not. My due date is in 2 weeks and I’ve had multiple people tell me they didn’t get their invite or that they RSVPed and I never ended up receiving it. Like I said, due date is still 2 weeks away, so why would they lie? You clearly have very negative feelings for these people and shouldn’t have invited them to begin with.

View Quoted Comment ^^ this

we had an uncle whose card we didn’t receive before the wedding. He swore he had sent it but we kind of presumed he was saying that to save face but had actually forgotten to drop it in the mail as even though he has the best of intentions...he can be a bit flaky. Lo and behold a month later a wrinkly envelope appeared in our mailbox— his rsvp card, that must have been lost, then found, by the post office— the postmark date on it was in fact before our deadline ! I felt bad not having believed him . But thankfully we had reached out and knew he would be attending.

Thank you for all of those who actually answered the question instead of giving me unwanted advice. I’m pretty straightforward, I don’t babysit adults. Period.

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I agree with this...this also lets you know if their whole party isn't coming (like if you're inviting a couple but only one of them can make it for some reason). I know I'd hate to reserve 2 seats when only 1 person was coming.

You'll have to chase people down unless you don't mind random people showing up at your wedding. That's unfortunately just how it is for every bride. If you don't mind and you can handle the extra people, then that is fine.