I want to change my Maid of Honor

What is she supposed to text you about? Your wedding is still almost a year away. Im two months out and none of my bridesmaids call or text me about anything.

You can have 2 maids/matrons of honor if you really wanted to - then no one's feelings would be hurt.

So change your maid of honor and not have her in the wedding, but like Erin said, don't expect her to still want to be your friend. Something I've learned with getting married next year, most people aren't going to be over the moon excited so early on, even your bridal party.

This is something that will end a friendship. Do you want to end your friendship with the nanny?

Have 2 MOHs and then your bestfriend can step up and do everything and you won't hurt the nanny's feelings.

That is the danger of asking people to be in your wedding really early. You might change your mind. If you demote this other girl to bridesmaid or to guest (or not invited at all), you will probably lose the friendship completely. Is this something you're willing to do? If you are, then go for it. Tell her that you were too hasty and you would prefer this other person be your MOH.

If you are not ready or willing to destroy your friendship, consider doing what Laura suggested, and have co-maids of honor.

Thanks for all the comments. I want her to call me and text me like, hey how are you, wanna go for a drink after work. She is suppose to be my friend I don't need her to talk about the wedding, but when I asked her my wedding was supose to be April 26th of this year by my fh mom had a heart attack and had to get a 6 artery bipass, so we pushed the wedding back a year so she could recover. But friends should call friends, I have called her and left vm and texted with no response. She doesn't have kids or a husband so I know she has time. Anyway, I like the idea of having two maid of honors.

Sounds like with the lack of talking maybe you need a heart to heart. I would personally just make them both a MOH personally.

I agree with TooManyMistys.

I feel like people would be scared or not know how to say no when you ask them to be in your wedding. Maybe that was the case with her?

And your bestfriend could of still been you MOH even if she isn't local. Unless before she wouldn't of been able to make it to the wedding.

If you demote this person, that is a friendship ending move and people will judge you hard. You can always ask your friend to be MOH and you can have two MOHs.

The phone works both ways. You can always ask her. Just from my current experience, my BM's haven't been SUPER involved until.. well, this week and it's the WEEK OF our wedding. It's fine with me. They're all excited about it and I'm more balanced out. They have brought a little of the excitement back to me! HAHA.

I wouldn't demote her. I just wouldn't place all of the effort on her to keep up your friendship. Like TooManyMisty's said, you could have more than one maid of honor.

"She doesn't have kids or a husband so I know she has time"

What? Because people don't have busy lives unless they are married and/or have children...

Anyways, maybe she has something going on in her life, maybe you should call her and say that you miss her and are there for her, ask if anything is wrong, etc.

I would be more concerned about the friendship in general over their "status" in your bridal party. JMO. I don't talk to my girls a lot....but we're ALL like that in that we maybe chat or text every few months. But they also all live out of state, and that's been our friendships for years.

"She doesn't have kids or a husband so I know she has time"

Seriously, this attitude really creams my corn. There is more to life than kids and marriage. Some people have demanding careers, or ailing family members to care for, etc. Never assume someone has tons of free time just because they're single.

With that said, if you want to talk to this person more, why don't you call/text HER? It works both ways. And you can have two MOH's. Unless you want to lose a friendship, I wouldn't kick her out of your wedding party.

I don't have children or a husband (yet) and I'm super busy...

I also like that idea of the 2 MOH's. Just make sure that you treat them both fairly even though you know one better than the other.

Im in a similar situation. I got a touch over zealous early on and asked one of my friends to be my MOH due to my sisters having other roles in my wedding. I haven't hardly spoken to her in months, she was extremely unhelpful when I did, and other issues. The one sister who was my photographer has decided to sell her business and I really wanted her to be my MOH. Because its not my current MOH's fault that I jumped the gun, its not fair to her if I were to "demote" her. We are having dinner on Thursday and I will explain to her the changes with my sister and then have a Matron and a Maid of Honor. Good luck and I feel your pain.

It sounds like you two don't have much of a relationship if you have had no contact in 4 months. Personally, I would demote her and lose the "friendship"...it doesn't seem like much of one anyways.

Make both of them your maids of honor and just have your best friend come down right before you do that way only you know that there is some sort of hierarchy there. If you want the nanny to stay your friend DON'T kick her out of the entire wedding.

I agree with the majority.... 2 MOH. But if she is not communicating, maybe she will drop out?

I'm in the same boat as you. My current maid of honor has not been in contact with me about anything. I message her and call her just to chat and no response. She can't buy any of her own attire for the wedding or her hair. So I want to promote my bridesmaid to being a matron of honor as she has already done do much for my wedding that's less than 6 months away now. I just dont know how to demote my moh. I dont want 2 maid of honors