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I want to ask my stepdad to walk me down the aisle too

Theresa, on August 22, 2016 at 7:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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So, my parents divorced when I was nine and now they're both remarried. My stepdad started dating my mom when I was 11. (Crazy thing is, my FH's parents are divorced and both remarried, big wedding!)

Anyway, my stepdad has been there for me (coming to watch me cheer at basketball games, co-signing my college loans, changing my oil when I didn't have the time, and always checking in on me). He is also building a beautiful arbor/pergola for the ceremony.

My dad mentioned that he would be totally okay with my stepdad joining us for our trip down the aisle. Compared to my older sis (who gets married in less than a month) who has a jerk of a stepdad. I would of course reconfirm this with my dad first.

My main question is, sorry for the long post, what are some special ways I could ask my stepdad? His only bio child is my 3 y/o sis. So that's a while off for him and he's not expecting me to ask, my mom isn't either. He's outdoorsy and loves M&Ms if that sparks any ideas!

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Latest activity by Theresa, on August 22, 2016 at 8:08 PM

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Going to the chapel · on August 22, 2016 at 7:46 PM
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Can't you just invite your mom and step dad to dinner and ask without any of the added ideas. They are cute yes, but not needed. If anything, write your stepdad a letter telling him how much he means to you. At the end of the letter ask about walking you down the aisle. I think that would mean far more to him than a cute ask.
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DT · on August 22, 2016 at 7:46 PM
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Why don't you two go on a hike and you can give him a nice letter about how much he means to you and how you would love for him to walk you down the aisle? I think doing something simple speaks volumes.
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DT · on August 22, 2016 at 7:48 PM
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Also, I think it is really special to have both dads walk you down the aisle and even more special that your 'dad' is okay with it. Congrats!
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Melissa · on August 22, 2016 at 7:55 PM
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I like the hiking idea, I'm not sure if I would write a letter, or just bring up a conversation while you walk. Like "hey, you know I really appreciate that you're building the pergola for our wedding..it just reminds me of how much you care for me and how much I mean to you. I would really love it if you would join me and my father for the trip down the aisle"
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Theresa · on August 22, 2016 at 8:08 PM
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Thanks for the ideas.
While yes I could be simple and just give him a letter. But I would put a letter with something. He's also a humorous person and a geek. Him and my mom started dating over love of Star Wars and hatred of Oompa Loompas. So I just think tying in some humor to a letter or something.
I do love the hiking idea, only problem is I live 2 hours always with a weird work schedule. So I only get to see him hours at a time and not on his days of usually.
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