i want my son to be the rings bearer

Maybe you can have someone hold your son half way down the aisle and put him down point to daddy and let him walk the rest of the way? That way he still gets to walk but it’s not to long and you still get cute pictures of him walking down. You can leave reserve a seat for The person holding the child so he can step to the side and they won’t be showing in the pictures and if your child doesn’t cooperate then the person can just step in again and help out.

What about someone pulling him in a wagon?

i will have my 3 (then) year old in ours and every kid is different so it’s hard to judge but I would definitely have a couple of plans

for example I feel like at 18 months my daughter would have easily run down the aisle to us or just daddy even with the crowd on either side of the aisle

at 2 and 2 and a half, however I think she would be too shy to go down the aisle alone and definitely couldn’t guide a younger child

im hoping at 3 she’ll be ok going down holding her 6 (then but nearly 7) cousins hand because they’ve always been close

ill also have a niece who is just over 2 and I’m hoping that the 6 year olds sister (5 then) will be able to hold hands with 2 year old... the 6 year old would probably guide 2 year old better but Brittany (3) and Elizabeth (5) can be competitive and bicker so I definitely prefer to try and have my daughter make it so I’m putting her with the cousin she gets along well with... if I’m thI also as

...if I’m thinking that day that Brittany won’t make it alone which is ideal choice... 3 alone, 5 alone, 6 with 2

i also plan to have mom is 5&6 as bridesmaid but instead of standing she’s with flower girls to walk them by hand if 2&3 seem that day like they won’t make it I’ll go 2&3 walked by aunt (Brittany’s favorite aunt) then 6 &5 together or separately depending on if they’re bickering that day or lovey dovey...then their mom will sit up front with the flower girls with rest of family instead of standing and if needed carry out criers as mom of 2 will be standing with me and dad of 5&6 with SO...dad of 2 will probably take her over after getting down aisle I’m sure...



sorry for long post and mistake in middle

i advise multiple plans with worst case scenario with a loved adult (granddad, uncle or even friend of family: whatever as long as they have really good rapport with your son)



good luck and happy planning

My nieces baby was that age when she was the flower girl at her wedding. She was very shy at that age and very much a daddy’s girl. Luckily, she also favors my oldest son and I because when she started down the isle she started booking it to daddy. lol. To get her to start down the isle we just positioned my oldest son where she could see him and he motioned for her and she just started towards him. My oldest was able to coax her back to the girls side (after she ran up to her daddy) and I was able to keep her entertained for most of the ceremony.

Do you have any bridesmaids that know him well enough to walk with him? I’m in the same situation as my nephew will be about that age and as his mother is one of my MOH I will probably have him hold hands with her down the aisle, then my brother in law can grab him for the ceremony

Are there any older kids in your family? Our ring bearer will be 2 1/2 so it'll be hit or miss if he makes it down the aisle or not. We have asked my 7 year old nephew and FH's 7 year old nephew to be "security" and basically just walk down with him. We got them little brief cases, sunglasses, badges, and fake ear pieces too

We recently went to a wedding where their two kids were the ring bearer and flower girl, and pretty much the same ages. They had a friend walk them down halfway, holding their hands. Then she squatted down and pointed to their mom and dad at the front of the altar, and the little girl grabbed her brothers hand and they walked down. It was honestly such a cute moment! I would delegate a trusted friend to watch them before, and let them walk down last so they see you at the front of the aisle and know where to go. Good luck!!

Could you have an adult walk behind him to gently course him through the walk? Like a grandparent or aunt/uncle that he is close with. I think this way, all eyes would still be on him, but he'd get the guidance to get down the aisle. If he refuses to walk, or stops or something, the adult can hold his hand and help him.

My nephew’s mom has been super helpful in the wedding planning, i’m going to have them both walk down the aisle together.

Can your son walk with your mom or your FH’s mom? I assume he is comfortable around his grandparents.

Before we pushed our date out, we were looking at having my granddaughter as flower girl, but she would only be like 2 at the time. She's perfectly smart, but anyone with kids knows that 2 year olds don't always follow directions very easily. So, our plan was to have her great grandparents (FHs parents) walk with her, as guides, just to keep her on task basically. If you have some grandparents, or other relatives you'd like to include, that's a really good way to do it. Little ones do much better with a grown up guide.

Now this point is moot for us, as she will be 3 as of the new wedding date, and we have our 6 yr old nephew as ring bearer to walk with her.

Give it a try, in a church or theatre. I think he is too young. It would be all about someone bringing him, not him doing anything. Why don't you pick something that comes more natural at his age. Like at the cake cutting, you each feed each other a piece of cake, which is symbolic of your nurturing and taking care of your spouse for your lifetime, then one of him feeds a piece to him, and he feeds you, then the other parent does it. Now you are a family that will care for each other for all the years you raise him, and for time beyond when he will see to your needs. Is some cultures, including mine, the couple feed any children they have at time of marriage, whether one a new parent ir both the child's parents, and do it at adoptions too. And it is a gesture kids have some clue about at an early age: Parents love me/ us children, and take care of us, and we return that love , with the feeding of bites of sweet foods.