I want my brothers to walk me down the aisle

This is your choice. If you don't feel close to him then don't ask. If your brothers are willing to for it.

I'm having my older brother walk me down.

It's whoever you feel you want; your dog, brother, or yourself.

Based on his reaction to the dinner invitation, it sounds like he may not even want to walk you down the aisle. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but it sounds like he doesn't feel the father-daughter bond between the two of you either?

It's a personal choice, but I don't see any problem with you asking your brothers (or anyone else, or no one!) if that's who you feel the closest to.

If I have my brothers walk me down the aisle, is it okay to have a father daughter dance at the reception with my step dad (provided that he wants to), or should I just omit it?

Whoever you want! I'm having my mom and my almost 3 year old son walk me down!

I think the dance would be fine. I think that's a nice way to still include him, if he wants that. He may also be feeling like he doesn't want to take your bio dad's place though. Are you close enough with him to just sit down and talk about it?

I probably could sit down with him and talk about it. I might ask my mom if she knows how he feels about it before. If she knows he doesn't want to dance, then I guess I wouldn't need to talk to him about it.

If I were you, I'd ask my mother. You don't have to have a male, family member walk with you. That goes back to archaic/sexist traditions.

I think it's great you'd want your brothers to walk you down, and having the father-daughter dance is still a nice way to include him in your wedding. I've asked my brother to walk me down because he's honestly one of my closest family members and my dad is officiating

This is entirely your choice. Agree with PPs that you can ask your mother if you'd like, and if you still wanted to do something with your stepdad you could do a father-daughter dance.

I was thinking of asking him to do the dance too. I'd also sit down with him to ask him

Very much your choice. My sisters and brother lost their dad when they were very young. My parents married when they were young teens, but our brother walked them both down the aisle. It's not that they don't love my dad (their step-dad), but it was the right choice for how they felt.

On a side note, our church still asks "who presents this woman," So my brother answered "our mother and I do" so our mom was still recognized and mentioned. Just a thought if you're including that part!

If you want your brothers to walk you down the aisle, that is fine. It's your choice.

It's also your choice who you dance with at the reception if you want to do a special dance. I think that having a special dance with your stepfather would be a nice way to still honor and include him. Talk to him and ask if he's willing.

I've seen where brides had one person walk them down the aisle and then danced with someone else during the social dances at the reception. My cousin's wife was close with both her dad and stepdad. She decided, however, to ask her mom to walk her down the aisle and then did two father-daughter dances during the reception. I think she wanted to keep things equal with her dads, as well as also honor her mom.

My dad and I have a pretty strained relationship, so my brothers are going to walk with me. We kind of took the sting out of it by having FH's siblings walk him in, too. Because it's not that I want to hurt my dad or anything; we just don't have that kind of relationship. He didn't take it well, but I didn't expect him to. I guess what I'm saying is do what feels right to you. Just be prepared for the reactions that follow, and do what you can to minimize whatever hurt feelings might come up. (And maybe he'll be totally cool with it, I don't know.) I think that having a dance is a nice middle ground.