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i want a small wedding but have 2 large families

Kelsey, on February 10, 2020 at 8:44 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 7

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Hey everyone! My fiancé and I are both from very large families, but we purposely chose a venue that only seats 100 people.

So this means we either can only invite our family or only invite some family and invite our friends. And our parents expect us to invite people that we haven’t seen in years or don’t care for.
Do you guys have any suggestions on how I can explain to people that they aren’t invited?

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on February 11, 2020 at 8:55 PM

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Private User · on February 10, 2020 at 8:48 PM
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Make your guest list the way you want to and if anyone asks about it, just say we only have room for 100 guests and leave it at that. They will get an invite if they were chosen lol. I wouldn't share any more information than that.
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Expert October 2020
Onya · on February 10, 2020 at 8:51 PM
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Only invite those who are apart of the 100. I️ would Invite a mix of family and friends.
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Devoted August 2020
Mrs. Lewis · on February 10, 2020 at 8:54 PM
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We are having a smaller wedding also, 90 guest total. I tell people “immediate family and close friends”. Which is true
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Kristen · on February 10, 2020 at 9:32 PM
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Who's paying for the wedding?
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Super April 2020
Anna · on February 11, 2020 at 1:03 AM
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I agree with pp. I am the oldest of 8. half of my siblings have significant others and kids. Mine alone is 18 people. We are paying for everything, so no one has said anything. Except his aunt. I'm real close of not inviting her lol. But as long as you two pay, no one can say anything.
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Super August 2020
Alex · on February 11, 2020 at 9:28 AM
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Why did you choose a venue before you worked out your guest list?
It is not an option in my family not to invite everyone. People would be so offended.
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Kelsey · on February 11, 2020 at 8:55 PM
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Our venue and size limit was one of my “must haves”

It’s likely going to be the same way in our family. Someone is going to probably get hurt. Hence why I’m trying to find a polite way of telling them.
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