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i think my officiant is a raci...

Brittany, on October 11, 2018 at 2:14 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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I have a hard time even saying the words because 1. She is my future husband's aunt 2. I kinda like-d her. 3. My wedding is 9 days away and I don't have time for this bull.
So the story. I went to meet with our officiant ...at a bar..but that's another story entirely...to discuss the ceremony. She is FHs aunt. We chatted and it came up that she posted pictures from our shower on Facebook. (Good ol Facebook...where you find out who ppl really are.) The next night I go to find her Facebook and start scrolling. I keep searching for the pictures of us and couldn't find them
But I did find a few posts boycotting New Orleans bc the mayor decided to remove the monument from the civil war generals and other questionable posts with Confederate flags all over.
Now I am conflicted. Do I say thanks but no thanks to her as our officiant to find someone else or do I let it be since we are 9 days out and keep her at an arms distance going forward.
Now before I get stoned..I don't think that she is racist just because she has a Confederate flag on her Facebook but it does concern me because here in the deep South if I see a Confederate flag coming my way it gives me a reason to pause.

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BrandiWeds18 · on October 11, 2018 at 2:19 PM
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I completely understand where you are coming from. I say talk with your FH and see what he thinks. If it helps your peace of mind you may want to find an available officiant elsewhere, just in case. I used thumbtack and found mine. This is a tough situation and really boils down to more than just the posts but if your FH has heard of anything that would alarm him and your interactions with her.
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Christina · on October 11, 2018 at 2:22 PM
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I agree with the poster above. Talk to FH and see what he says. She may just be one of those people that get on a bandwagon and doesn't really think about what she posts.
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Brittany · on October 11, 2018 at 2:24 PM
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She's been nothing but nice to me...but to be honest that doesn't mean anything to me. Lots a good southern women know how to grin and bare it. I'm so annoyed more than anything. I just wish I never went to her damn Facebook page.
He had mentioned to me before that she hung with a questionable crowd but I chocked that up to her being a stunt actress and living a free hippy life. But now looking back I think he meant she hung with some hateful folks. Some of whom I encountered at the bar. I.e. they wouldn't shake my hand when she introduced us or they had this look like 'why is she here in our space."
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