I think I may have made a mistake...Bridesmaid issues

I think your answer is right there.... "Friend, I can see that things are very busy for you right now and that you don't really have the time to do the bridesmaid thing. I tried to get a hold of you but you were not availiable. We have the dresses already on order. I hope you will still be able to make it to our wedding."

or if you think she won't completely flake out on you... you can ask her to be your personal attendant... someone that can help keep you on track that day, run little errands for you. And if she does flake out on you, I hope you have a strong Maid of Honor that can help keep you on track.

p.s. you don't need to have even BM and GM...especially if the guys are going to stand up front with the groom and the BM are going to walk in alone.

I would have to agree, just tell her since she doesnt have time not to worry about it and either she will be happy and bow out or she will start trying harder to be there for you.

I was in the same position and I just politely asked her to step down from a bridesmaid. I said that obviously she doesn't have time and honestly we grew apart. She totally understood and agreed to come as a guest. Hope things go well.