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Just Said Yes June 2019

i regret everything about my wedding

Cierra, on July 9, 2019 at 7:02 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
I regret not eloping and not pushing further for eloping. I regret the date, one I didn't want. I regret trusting my MIL, she manipulated and went behind mine and my husband's back to have the wedding she wanted. I'll save you everything she did but she took advantage of our kindness and our situation, and most of all my husband's love for her. Basically its come down to me and DH have put his mother in "time out" for a minimum of 2 months after the wedding, after which time we are revaluating. Even the wedding day itself the exact opposite of what I wanted: indoor, rushed, treated like an inconvenience the whole time. Everyone that was there to "help" literally ignored our wishes and did their own thing. I want a redo. But I'm thinking at best I'll get a 1 year vow renewal in order for me to feel in control. If I can do the vow renewal or marriage celebration ceremony itll be a chance to have what I always wanted: just me and hubs "eloping" in the mountains. I regret being so naive and nice and distracted by school and work during my wedding planning. I just want to cry everytime I think of my wedding. I got married June 7th, I wish I had just done what I wanted and just eloped this coming July 23rd which would have been our anniversary. It would have been special and intimate. What I got was huge, rushed, and disrespected on and around my wedding day. Sorry if this feels ranting, I just had to put this out there to get advice, hear from people who went through similar, and to warn any bride-to-be out there not to let anyone screw up their once on a lifetime special day. I let people screw it up and it's something I'll have to live with forever.

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Latest activity by Shole, on August 13, 2019 at 11:00 AM
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I'm so sorrySmiley sad The day should have been about what you and your husband wanted

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Oh no! 😢 But it sounds like your hubby feels the same way and is backing you up. YEEEES, elope on your 1st anniversary or July 23, 2020!! Hang those photos in your home and celebrate that date if you wish. For now, focus on being happily married and know that this past event just made you both stronger as a TEAM.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Elope, go on a vacation for your first anniversary or holidays together and do you. Take photos and remember THAT day.
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  • Wendy
    Dedicated April 2020
    Wendy ·
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    I think a future private vow renewal / celebration of marriage is a great idea. That way you have the best of both for your cherished memories Smiley heart
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  • Alhina
    Devoted August 2019
    Alhina ·
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you and your husband.
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  • C
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Cierra ·
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    Thanks for support. This may sound crazy but I'm thinking of just doing an elopement ceremony July 23rd for our anniversary. We live close to Gatlinburg, TN and could drive up for the day. I'd just love an intimate ceremony. My DH admitted he was sad that there was a lack of connection during our ceremony but I reminded him of my social anxiety and that while I was smiling, I was thinking of the 150 people staring at us.
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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
    Renee ·
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    Did you send in your marriage certificate? If they don't get it, it doesn't count.
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