i really just want a Elopement service. Has anyone done this?long Drama story below.

Hello. Sorry you're having issues but here's a little piece of advice. The wedding is only yours and your future husband's. Outside guests don't have a say in which date is the best. The best date is the decision that works for you both and other people either can attend or not. If you decide not to do the wedding or to do the wedding a different date just choose one and tell everybody we change the date this works for us we hope you will come. Also a lot of couples get married on a weekend and then take their honeymoon later. If he gets one week off you can still do your Disney and Airbnb but maybe not right after the ceremony. Those are just some ideas in case you still want to have a full wedding. In regards to eloping that is exactly what my FH and I are doing. I'm going to have photographer, we're going to have a few close friends with us, my best friend will be my maid of honor and she will wear a dress and she will help me get ready. I'm wearing a wedding dress and I'm having a bouquet and we're going to have an officiant still marry us and I'm currently searching for venues. The concept of elopements has drastically changed from what we thought they used to be where you just run off to Vegas and go to some seedy Chapel. You can even invite a small amount of people but realistically at that point it's called an intimate wedding. You could just do something small and then treat those that attended the wedding to dinner at a restaurant afterwards. You could even hold a larger post elopement ceremony which is also what we are doing. We are not doing our honeymoon right after our wedding we're going to do it at a later date. I would really Google or Pinterest elopement and get some ideas. Hopefully everything turns out well don't let this stress wear you out.

Agree with above. You need to pick a date that works for you and your significant other. No one else's schedule should play a role in that decision. If you go to all this effort and they still dont RSVP you'd be furious! Unfortunately, it is likely. Also, elopements can be super nice and still give you a wedding feel. You can get hair, makeup, photography done, and wear a gown! You can invite those closest to you and go out to a nice dinner with your small group. Decorate tables, hold a bouquet. An elopement doesn't have to be you running off and nothing else. Make this day yours and stop stressing over the rest! If they make it, they make it.

We’re taking our honeymoon 8 months after our wedding. Sometimes it’s just too hard to plan both at the same time.

We are taking our honeymoon about a month after the wedding, but it's going to be a mini-moon at a small resort town about an hour north of us. We didn't want to spend a ton of money on it because we are saving for a house.

I’m eloping. We didn’t get a package but if you look up elopement packages and your area you’ll see the different planning options available.



I’m wearing a dress, I’ll have a bouquet, we’re having a photographer and videographer, I’m getting my makeup done and we have an officiant who is gonna customize our ceremony. No reception at this time as it will be just him and I, but I’ve seen options where you can do that too. It’s all still possible with a smaller ceremony. Do what works for you!

We eloped. Just us and our witnesses. But will have our "public" wedding for our family and friends in April 2021. So we are technically married, but only few know. Not even our families.

Pick a date that works for you and your FH, and while it may sound harsh, those that desire to be there to celebrate you will make it. We are having a Friday wedding and giving our guest ample time to request off. Also you dont have to take your Honeymoon right after the wedding/reception. Take it later.

So sorry you have had so many issues but this is your wedding! My advice is to plan your wedding when you want and how you want! As far as your honeymoon, you can do that anytime. If you want to elope then go for it but only do it if you want to, not because the planning has been difficult. Wedding planning is stressful but it can also be very fun!

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Great advice, Sherry. I agree

I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time with your planning. We are only allowed to take one week off at a time too at our jobs so we'll be taking off one week for our wedding and then taking off another week at a later date for our honeymoon. I think that you guys should do whatever you want to do and I would not change the date again. I don't see how it was necessary to change your wedding date for a birthday?! I think that you should just plan whatever you want and let everyone know the date and time and end of conversation.

I'm in a very similar situation and I completely emphasize with you. We are considering doing a small elopement ceremony with just parents and brothers then extending something out a low key ceremony (wearing the low key dress). My advice to you: do what feels right for your special day and enjoy every bit of it!

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling stressed I just did a DIY elopement last weekend that was super low key. We did it on one of our favorite hiking trails (we are very outdoorsy people and can deal with rain, it actually did rain a little during the day but we had our rain gear with us) followed by a picnic with fancy snacks I mostly got from Costco and I home baked a few savory pastries and desserts. I wore a long dress I bought for the occasion and my husband wore a shirt and long pants from his closet that I picked out for him LOL. Our friend got certified online to officiate and registered with the state and another friend took some photos (the photos weren't great but we are going to do a couple's photo session at some point when we have more time - it's a lot cheaper than an elopement package and I didn't want any strangers at the ceremony). After we exchanged vows we spent the rest of the day just hanging out, eating and talking. Is there a pretty park or some other public space in your area you could use without a permit and just grab some friends? Our ceremony literally took a few minutes.

Try looking into "micro weddings." We had a venue booked and paid for, had drama and decided to efff everyone and just do what we wanted with only our wedding party (two best men). Neither one of us is into the whole wedding thing anyway, it just felt like spending 30K to make everyone else feel better. There are a lot of places to hold a small ceremony for free or under $500 (in Colorado) where we can wear dresses if we want, have a ceremony, take pictures and then not have a reception at all. We're just renting an Air bnb for our guys and hiring a private chef to come and make us food. I'm sure similar options are available in your area. There are actually companies that specialize in micro-weddings. They can find you the location, hire the officiant and hook you up with photographers that offer smaller packages.. etc.