i really am just baffled and cannot believe it in this situation

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this, I would try to see those posts and get documentation so that if she tries anything at work (retaliation) you can go to HR or someone higher up and report it. And if she sues you to recover her portion of what she paid, you have that as well for evidence.

Agreed with the others. Bring this issue to HR. Regardless of your working relationship within your company, this is harassment.

I would also tell your FH about the situation, because it sounds quite public and if he finds out from other people and not you, I think it will make the situation worse. There is probably going to be a lot of damage control, and he will likely be upset, but just pretending nothing is happening is not going to help when your former MOH keeps escalating things and will not let it go.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this!

I agree with those who said you should address this in the work context (via reporting to HR or whatever makes sense for your job). But I seriously doubt any benefit will come to you if you try to address her slander (libel, since it was written) in civil court. I am not a lawyer, but I am pretty sure it would be very difficult to prove that her social media posts actually injured you in a significant way (I'm not saying they didn't hurt, but proving injury legally is completely different). It would just waste your money and time to go after her legally.

Edited to add: I agree with Kari that you definitely need to come clean to your future spouse about the private details you shared with her, since they are no longer private. He needs to hear this from you and you need to be proactive about mitigating any potential relationship damage.

First things first - when there is a big mess like this, the first step is to NOT add to the mess. Block everyone. Tell your friends you don't want them to update you on what they see/hear/read unless it's something actionable. Like if they are threatening your life, etc. You will gain nothing from responding to them.

Second - if she's you boss, you guys need a mediator at work if she can't let it go. I am not sure what field you are in, but she's not behaving professionally with a subordinate in any way shape or form and that won't be good for either of your careers.

Third - do whatever it takes to find a new job. Don't this job till you have a new one, but keep looking.

The people are not your friends. They have treated you badly and are not quality people.

I agree with the above posters, bring it up to HR. As an HR manager this would qualify as sexual harassment.

As far as anything else, I know its hard but I would try to let it go. There are two types of people that will be reading her posts:

1. The types that feed into drama so much that they aren't people you want to be around anyways.

2. The types that would be horrified by her post and will see her true colors shining through just by her even reacting that way.

Surround yourself with only #2's. Take a deep breath, and enjoy your wedding now that it will be stress free.

This is so perfect! And true...a good way to screen out people in your life is to see how they respond to this.

I had something happen in my life about 10 years ago that caused a lot of fallout, drama, stories, etc and it was devastating how people I thought were friends acted. But when the dust cleared, I saw who my friends were. And realized that the people who were feeding into the drama had *always* been that way, and I was just another feeding frenzy to them. My life improved so much when I got super picky about who is in my life. Anyone who makes any mean comments about anyone else, I immediately know to keep them at distance, and boy do I have awesome friends now!