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Just Said Yes June 2022

i need help please!

Melissa, on November 11, 2020 at 11:20 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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So me and my FH are planning to have 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen, I have 5 of my bridesmaids picked out. But the girl that I chose for my 6th we only hang out once a year and we were suppose to grab dinner and she came up with this excuse so we never went.. she texted me today asking if we can hang out next week, I’ve been friends with her for 3 years, we used to hang out a lot, but I feel like now we rarely do.

And I have this other friend named Lexi, she’s my FH best friend’s girlfriend, we just started to get close, we share a lot in common and she’s super sweet and I feel like we are starting to develop a close friendship, we just started to recently hang out as a group a lot, I feel like from now until the wedding approaches me and her will be best of friends. She also knows my MOH and one of the other bridesmaids .. I don’t know who to choose!

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Latest activity by Veronica, on November 11, 2020 at 2:54 PM

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Michele · on November 11, 2020 at 11:30 AM
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Are either of these women *your* nearest and dearest best friends? If not, I would skip asking either of them. A bridesmaid is not a position to just randomly fill with whomever is not close to you who you knew as a kid but you don't talk to now or someone's wife/gf who you don't hang out with ever.
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Master April 2021
Mrs. Spring · on November 11, 2020 at 11:31 AM
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I would choose tge one your closest to and the most reliable.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on November 11, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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It sounds like you’re choosing someone just to have a seventh body there. I would skip asking either of them. If you are dead set on asking someone, I would wait awhile since your wedding is a year and a half away.
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Chrysta · on November 11, 2020 at 11:56 AM
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Agreed. You should only choose the people nearest and dearest to you to stand in your wedding party. People you have known a long time, who have been with you through ups and downs, and have supported your relationship. If you are not rather positive a person will be in your life 10+ years from now, they probably shouldn’t be standing with you on your wedding day. It doesn’t sound as though you are very close with either of these women. Personally, I wouldn’t have either of them stand with me. You do not need to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen- uneven wedding parties are super common. It is also not advised to choose a wedding party this far out from your wedding, because of situations just like this. If I were you, I would wait till much closer to your wedding to make a final decision on your bridal party. There are people on this forum allllll the time who chose their wedding party too far out, then regretted their choices.
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Samantha · on November 11, 2020 at 12:44 PM
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This forum is full of threads of ladies who wish they hadn't asked someone they are not super close to. Usually ends in stress, disdain and ruined friendships. Wait a bit before asking anyone. There's no rush and as these people are already your closest friends, they aren't going anywhere.
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Master October 2020
Yasmine · on November 11, 2020 at 1:07 PM
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Why can't you choose both? The sides don't have to be equal!
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Veronica · on November 11, 2020 at 2:54 PM
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I wouldn't pick either. You don't need to have even sides and you really shouldn't pick someone else you can't imagine having them stand next to you. I asked someone out of obligation and it turned out to be a disaster and she ended up not being in the wedding.
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