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Sarah
Devoted November 2021

i need help picking my Bridal party!

Sarah, on September 30, 2019 at 6:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
My Fiancé wants five groomsmen. Two are his brothers and three are his very dear friends. Unfortunately I only have three very close friends, one of whom is a guy (hooray for bridesman!). It's important to me to keep the two sides even, so I have two options.
Originally I was planning to pick my two close coworkers. Ive only spent time with one outside of work (even gone to her wedding!), but we've sort of formed a clique. Unfortunately here lately there's been some mild drama with them, and I'm worried that will carry over to the wedding. On the flip side they are both really fun and know how to party.
My other option is to ask my sister and my fiancé's daughter (currently 13 and 14, don't judge). If I don't do that I'll include his daughter in the ceremony in a different, more meaningful way. The main reason I'm so resistant to this is that would only leave me with two adult women in my bride tribe, one of which is very conservative, so any bachelorette shenanigans will be a little less exciting. On top of that my sister is a HUGE drama queen and cries 300 times a day. (Apparently she cried through church the other day because she didn't like our mom's outfit).
So there's my predicament. Any advice??

7 Comments

Latest activity by MrsD, on October 1, 2019 at 11:29 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Kind of sounds like choosing your coworkers would be better IF you can resolve the drama

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think your best option is to choose your party based on who you are closest to. Not as a way to have even numbers (I realize you said it's important, but why?) or by who will be the most fun to party with at an optional event you may not even have (i.e., a bachelorette party). So, ask your three very close friends and enjoy your wedding planning.

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  • Jamie
    Dedicated June 2021
    Jamie ·
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    I recommend choosing people who you are very close to now and you can’t imagine your future without. The bridal party is supposed to make the journey to the altar so much fun and should be a drama free zone.
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  • M
    Dedicated November 2021
    Madison ·
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    Maybe have sister and closer coworker? Choose whoever means more and actually makes life fun not just the tribe.
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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    Do you like any of the groomsmens SOs? If so you could have them in the wedding instead
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    The numbers don’t have to be equal.

    I would line up some alternates if possible though.

    I had to move 2 Hostesses to the Bridal party. At least I had a back up plan.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Why do the sides have to be even?

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