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i need all your help with what to wear

Stephanie, on July 19, 2020 at 8:43 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 26
So as some of you know my wedding went from everything i wanted to none of what i want. While it hasnt been talked about it is me who said i dont want to talk about it. Reason being it makes me cry and i dont want to be weak and in my eyes a cry baby about it. That said this wedding is a ceremony only and on the beach. Below are dress options . The full skirt is what i bought however i feel since the change of the wedding i wasnt sure about wearing it anymore. If the 3 what are your thoughts. Please be honest dress below 1300.00i need all your help with what to wear 1
Dress 1 tried this yesterday some glitter in the bottom .i need all your help with what to wear 2
Dress 2 Found on a website above short dress 200.00i need all your help with what to wear 3

i need all your help with what to wear 4
Dress 3 this above is what i bought for our wedding.
Its hard to pick since im so bitter but i need to decide by next week to have 2 of these dresses her in time. Dress 1 is 1300.00 dress 2 is under 200.00 and dress 3 is 1900.00 i have paid 600.00 of it so far on dress 3. I will either take a loss of 600 or have to pay it off and sell it.



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Latest activity by Stephanie, on July 22, 2020 at 8:44 PM
  • Caitlin
    Expert January 2021
    Caitlin ·
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    Hmm, I say definitely number one or number three! In order to keep it as close to your dream wedding, I say stick with the traditional long dress. I think that the third dress will go beautifully with beach scenery, so maybe you should stick with that one (as long ass you still like it/feel like it's the one). With that being said, the first one is just as beautiful and will also pair great with the beach. I say go with your gut on this one. Either will work and either will cooperate with your scenery themes, so go with the dress you like the most and feel the best in. Good luck! ❤️
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  • Michelle
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    Ohhh wow #3 is beautiful. Don’t go short, I think that will take away even more from the special day. I think you still need to feel Like a bride and dress 1 and 2 are still bridal. I can see why you purchased dress #3, it’s gorgeous.

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    Thanks i guess i put 2 in mix because i figured if this means so little to him and take away what i wanted then why go thru effort to look so wonderful for 20 minutes.
    I wont feel like a bride no matter what but atleast i can put the show on as if i do. So i suppose your right 1 or 3 is probably best bet
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  • Noelle
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    I’m feeling so sad for you...I can hear your pain in your posts, and I completely understand! I was married once before, and for that marriage, we went to the courthouse...no pretty dress, no celebration. I always regretted it. It’s so important that this day be special to you!!
    So, with all that in mind, I would wear one of the long dresses. The first one is beautiful, as is the third, but have you been able to try it on? If not I would stick with dress one, as you know how it fits and flatters you.
    You deserve a wonderful wedding day! I hope you’ll be celebrating in some way after the ceremony. Best of luck. Please update us on how it all goes!
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  • Noelle
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    Just reread your initial post,, I see you have put money towards dress 3...that is a gorgeous dress! Go for it if you love it!
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    I tried on something similar the design on top is different but overall the same. I just was annoyed and deleted the photo since he has made me mad.
    The middle dress is i will show you for what u are doing to me


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  • Sexypoodle
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    I’d be careful with tulle dresses (and sometimes lace). It’s like a net and can be a mess in the sand.
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    Im sure probably does catch sand etc but typically a ceremony only last id assume 20 minutes. I figured after that i will change clothes into shorts or something and we go grab dinner someplace. It be fun to sit in a car with a dress on but im sure it be doable.
    I will probably do a ponytail and curl it myself
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  • Sexypoodle
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    Gotcha! Changing clothes afterward sounds good. Best wishes!
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    Is it terrible i want to get even and wear something that is plain Jane not special. So when sees me its not what he thought .
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  • Sexypoodle
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    Well, if the dress makes you feel special, then don’t skip wearing it, simply to spite him. Make everything as special as possible on your side. Plus it might backfire and he ends up thinking your “plain jane” dress is just fine. 🙃
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    I showed him that plain jane and he said whats the for? Is that for date night?? I said yeah sure.
    I just dont know how to make this feel special i really dont because i simply don't feel it. I wish i knew how to be excited etc. I feel like ig he ruined this for me so now i do all i can to not make it special to him. Maybe my anger and bitterness will subside over time
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    If you do number one can you find a separate skirt attachment for it?
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    No that's one piece
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  • Natalie
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    I think you need to sit down and have a discussion with him about this wedding and come up with a compromise of sorts. Not doing so will only turn into more bitterness and resentment.
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    Your probably right . If he finds out how devastated i am not having dance and cake after this is over with he will be upset. Idk how to approach this with out being teary eyed is the thing
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  • Noelle
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    I totally agree with this, he needs to understand how important it is to you. You’ll regret it forever if you don’t. Could you possibly postpone?
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  • Natalie
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    It’s okay to be teary-eyed or cry because you are hurt by this and the emotions are real. (Crier here, too!) Once you explain how you are feeling instead of trying to hide it, maybe the two of you can sit down together to discuss exactly what you each were envisioning (type of “venue”, attire, guests, etc), do some research, and figure out ways for you both to compromise to get a wedding that will make you both happy!
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    It so crazy because i have no issues talking about anything else. I guess its because i dont want to come off as "that nutty bride".
    I thought when my friend gave me 4 sites that do beach or water ceremonies. I sent him the links and said for him to check them out he get the idea.
    I dont want to bother because everything i find and want turns to a no in the end. I honestly wonder if i wear something i do like the day of will i feel pretty or not. Will he see me and be thinking wow. I want to decorate and buy cute things and feel like a bride. I threw away my magazine's i had and my tie the knot binder yesterday. We are supposed to have engagement photos in a couple weeks to me though they are just pictures. Tue The label is nothing since this wedding isnt so fun anymore. Just saddens me because he is the man i waiting for find took til i was 49 and then this issue. I said just go to court and he said no way we are doing that.
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    Yeah sure he said we can wait 2 yrs if you want. However he knows i dont want that. Besides it wouldn't take that long. If he would of just not boight boat or jet ski . He said we are older we dont need need a big reception... 20 people isnt big.
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