OK to make a long story short, I’m getting married April 30, 2022, apparently according to culture, the godmother of the bride is usually the maid of honor who takes care of just about everything for me. I didn’t know this and I ended up asking one of my closest and oldest friend. I technically didn’t officially ask her, but when I told her I was engaged she dubbed that she would be the maid of honor, and being the fact that I didn’t know for sure about my God mom, I agreed.
Now here comes my predicament. My current maid of honor isn’t doing much of anything. It’s my first time getting married and I’m only 21, I’m also the first of my families generation to get married. Meaning my mother and her cousins as one generation and me and my own generation since I don’t have any cousins my age. If that makes sense. To summit up my maid of honor knows nothing about being a maid of honor. I’ve learned some things that she should and should not take up as a responsibility, but I’m not sure if it’s something I should just tell her, or I should just tell her to research it herself. I don’t want to play it the hard way, and I really just want to tell her her responsibilities in this position, but I feel like that’s some thing that I shouldn’t have to tell her. And she should go and take the time to find out. I wouldn’t have had to worry about this if it was my God mom. Don’t get me wrong I adore the both of them. But now I’m afraid that I might be doing everything myself, planning or financially, and idk what to tell my moh.. reminder, she did ask to be moh