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Rachel
Super June 2022

i might be losing a bridesmaid…

Rachel, on April 5, 2022 at 9:48 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 12
Hi, Everyone -


I am pretty bummed. Yesterday evening, my sister texted me saying that she ruptured her Achilles. Ugh. She said she will need surgery next Friday. I am really bummed since I’ve heard that the recovery can be rough and she is one of only 2 bridesmaids in my wedding party. She said she should be able to walk by then (June 26th) and expects to have full range of motion, but I’m not so sure. It’s even worse that our wedding ceremony is taking place on the beach/sand so they will add an extra layer of difficulty. I am just bummed since our wedding party is already small as it is (2 groomsmen, 2 bridesmaids but now it could only be 1 bridesmaid), and I know that stuff happens are wedding days sometimes don’t go as perfectly as they do in your head… but I am still really bummed. I’m sure people will think that it’s odd that I only have one bridesmaid if my sister can’t be in the ceremony… I know it shouldn’t matter what people think, but still…

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Latest activity by Bird, on April 5, 2022 at 8:26 PM
  • Paige
    Rockstar October 2022
    Paige ·
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    I'm sorry that happened and hope she has a speedy recovery! According to Dr. Google (take that advice as you will), the recovery time is about 6-8 weeks. It looks like there'll be about 11 weeks between her surgery and your wedding, so that seems hopeful at least.

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  • Rachel
    Super June 2022
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    Thank you so much, Paige! I talked to her more about it this morning and she said she won’t be able to put weight on it for 4 weeks post-surgery and it’ll be 4-6 months before it’s fully recovered. The good news is she should be able to walk on it after 4 weeks - so there’s that!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Maybe she can be transported? e.g. a wheelchair? or there are scooter things where she can put one leg on

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  • E
    Devoted August 2022
    Emily ·
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    I would definitely keep her. There's still time before the wedding, and I bet she would want to be supportive of you, even if she's on crutches.

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  • Rachel
    Super June 2022
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    Yes, definitely! It sounds like she’s optimistic that she’ll in decent shape by the end of June, so here’s hoping! 😊
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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
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    Whether she is in wheelchair, crutches, scooter, or crawling it doesn't matter. If you want your sister in your bridal party, make it accessible for her, don't kick her out People with disabilities participate in weddings too.
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  • Rachel
    Super June 2022
    Rachel ·
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    This wasn’t really a post about me kicking her out, just more or less concerned for whether she will be feeling well/fit enough to walk down the aisle. I would never kick my sister out of the wedding, lol!
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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
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    Well that's good to hear. Hopefully she knows she can still participate even if she's not fit enough to walk down the aisle. Glad to hear she'll recover from surgery in a few weeks. I wore a walking boot because of my Achilles for years off and on. No fun but I tried not to let it stop me from anything.
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    Oh man I m sorry to hear your sister got hurt. Will she be traveling far for the wedding, I think if she feels up to being in the wedding you can absolutely make it work. If she can't walk down the aisle just have her seated where the other bridesmaid will stand. Nobody will even remember if she doesn't walk down the aisle or you can get silly and have someone carry her down ha! Here s hoping her surgery goes as smoothly as possible and she s ready to rock on your wedding day!

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    Agree with others that it doesn't seem likely that she won't be able to be a bridesmaid. Worst case, you could rent a special wheelchair that will move easily over sand and a groomsman or someone else can push her down the aisle. As for your concern that other attendees will think "its odd", I can't imagine anyone who understands the situation is going to be anything but 100% supportive.... If they aren't, they are just plain rude!

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2022
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    Agree with others above - sounds like there's plenty of time between her surgery and your wedding, and worst comes to worst you can modify some of the logistics around the wedding party's involvement in your ceremony. Like others have suggested, you can look into getting her a wheelchair or she could get one of those knee scooters (yeah, won't look cute, but she'll be able to "walk" down the aisle). Perhaps she will be fine enough to walk with a crutch by then, though. Otherwise, you can look into not even having your wedding party walk down the aisle or stand at the altar with you - you don't have a very big wedding party to begin with, so this wouldn't be all that much of a change? Have your family walk down and seat your wedding party up front.

    As for the rest of the wedding, even with limited mobility I'm sure she will be fine to be present at your wedding. She just won't be able to jump around and dance the same way, but I don't think this is really any cause for concern. It will all be fine Smiley smile

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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
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    I would place a chair for her so she can sit instead of stand next to you during your ceremony.
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