**WRITE*** (not right. Post memorial day brain fart)
Back in my late teens and up until my mid-late 20's, I was such a doormat. Good girl, people pleaser, you name it. It took a lot of time (and counseling) for me to stop. Unfortunately, with that attitude I attracted toxic people, like users, and I was happy to be of service and be used up. Diane was that friend who I was happy to do things for.
When I was having a birthday party (late teens), I organized this hip hop dance group. We needed one more guy. Diane's mom voluntarily involved herself with the dance and brought more of her nephews to see if one would dance. That's how I met my FH. He backed down bc he thought I was pretty. I saw him throughout the years and apparently he kept telling Diane he was interested but she was apparently disgusted. I had no idea. Years later, he finally made a move and we've been together since. Around the time (before we got together), i was getting better at recognizing Diane's behavior. She never treated me with respect or excitement, like she did her (and our mutual) friends. She was only nice to me if she wanted something from me (ideas or a manipulative way to get me to do work for her aka finding directions to a restaurant when i JUST had my wisdom teeth taken out). When she didn't need something, she was just cold and our only means of conversation was just trying to get information from me so she can gossip. She's talked about me behind my back plenty of times as people have told me. When I would try to confront her, it was like she had a super power and felt it and would avoid me like the plague. When FH and I were official, she talked more sh8t and did everything in her power to not have us together - you know, the Jedi tricks that women would play (it doesn't make sense in theory but you just know).
I didn't like the way she expected me to be more submissive (bc i was in her family) and how she was treating me as a person, even when I would sneak in a talk with her. I decided to cut her off all together and did not speak to her at all, even at family parties. The smallest "hello" or cordial behavior would result in her giving me attitude and trigger the smear campaigns. She got nothing from me. Years later, we're engaged and I feel like people would want to know how we got together, which would mean including her but I'm thinking about it and I don't owe her anything nor is she entitled to be part of the story, if we don't want to. We just wrote that he showed up to a dance practice and that's how it started. Technically, his Aunt (diane's mom) brought him in but would need to be mentioned?
Thanks all!
