Our wedding was 46 days ago and it was fabulous and everything my husband and I had planned and hoped for. The part I still get angry about is the 15-16 people we paid for that didn’t show- to the tune of $3000.
We ran into one of my husband’s friends the other day one who didn’t show and I smiled and was pleasant but I was boiling underneath. He did apologize over text to my husband for not coming he apparently took s new job a month before the wedding, the company fired the other two guys in his position so he was literally the only one that day who could do his job and a customer came in late and he had to stay late to deal with it. Not only did this particular guest apologize to my husband- he offered to cover the cost of his plate- which we refused because things happen. I know everyone has this happen I’ve read it and heard about it and I know I need to just let it go. But ugh I just can’t. My Godson who was to be an usher, who two weeks before the wedding tells me he has a “new woman” and he is bringing her from Texas (we’re in Jersey) So I added her paid for her then two days before my Uncle- his father-tells me they aren’t coming. He was part of my wedding party! I bought him gifts, he was in the program! I was so devastated by it. I still can’t even say his name without either gritting my teeth or crying. It was the first time all 7 of my godchildren were going to be in one room. He didn’t and still hasn’t had the decency to tell me himself or contact me in any way.
My aunt fell the week before and my mom’s friend was in the hospital. This stuff happens I’m glad they’re both ok now. I gave my cousin my bouquet to give to her mom because she had wanted to come so bad. The rest of them all stupid excuses that they should have just rsvp’d no and although we would have been sad they couldn’t come I get our wedding isn’t as important to anyone else as it is to us. To say yes then not show. I just can’t believe how this bothers me this far out. The good thing is I didn’t even pay attention that night and nothing ruined our day I just don’t know how to stop harboring this resentment towards the really no excuse people two months later. 🤦🏼♀️ I know it’s stupid and I hate myself for being this way.